Coping with ANGER

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Coping with ANGER

Post by PLAIN JANE » Wed Aug 25, 2010 5:48 pm

Feeling very angry I'm looking for ideas to cope.
Of course there is exercise.
I'm an organized person but was looking for something in my closet. Closet is now properly destroyed. It's silly but it helped some. I will clean it up later.
Anyone have any ideas?
I'm distracting myself by being here. Hanging on.
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by Sam_Crayon » Wed Aug 25, 2010 11:19 pm

id be intrested to see what people put here, anger is annoying... :omad:
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by mande » Wed Aug 25, 2010 11:26 pm

I have had a long-standing anger problem. When I get out of control I try:
-Screaming into a pillow
-Taking a shower
-Cooking
-Talking things out [I can only do this because I'm a very blunt person]
-Making a very angry letter on my computer then deleting it
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by xPeggiePatchx » Thu Aug 26, 2010 12:19 am

If it's a person I'm angry with, I write a long, angry, ranty text on my phone, which I then delete.
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by PLAIN JANE » Thu Aug 26, 2010 4:38 pm

I like the angry letter idea. I can say what I want then destroy it.
Anger takes so much energy and solves nothing. I managed to get through the day with no si but it wasn't easy.
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by mande » Thu Aug 26, 2010 8:09 pm

I hope the letter works for you! It's done wonders for me.

@Peggy - I'd send the text in anger instead of deleting it, haha.
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by xPeggiePatchx » Sat Aug 28, 2010 3:27 pm

Lol, I always think I might send it, but then once I've typed it out, I've calmed down enough that I chicken out.
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If only I had an enemy bigger than my apathy I could've won.
It does not do to dwell on dreams, and forget to live.
Must I be content with discontent...I cannot bite the day to the core.
To die would be an awfully big adventure
And how can I stand here with you, and not be moved by you? Would you tell me how could it be any better than this?
Darkness can only be scattered by light, hatred can only be conquered by love.
Awareness is the enemy of sanity, for once you hear the screaming, it never stops.
Writers aren't exactly people...they're a whole bunch of people trying to be one person.
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Re: Coping with ANGER

Post by Stawberry_Lollipops » Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:05 pm

I quite like the letter idea also. Angry letters are great coping strategies for me. I like to burn them or rip them up when I'm done. It lets out a lot of steam, especially when you can't say those things to a person.

Sometimes when I'm angry I like turning music up full blast and screaming or singing really loud. Sometimes meditation can work for me. Breathing deeply in and out while trying to relax each part of my body working from my toes & up.
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