Caring About Someone That Doesn't Care Back.

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Caring About Someone That Doesn't Care Back.

Post by Diamond Dog » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:23 am

I made cyberfriends with someone almost 2 years ago and we got really close I though. He recently told me that he doesn't care about me, while I care about him DEEPLY.

I feel so hurt and alone.
"I tried so hard to reach you
But you're falling anyway."
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Post by Jude » Fri Jun 25, 2004 9:41 pm

Cyber friendships can be confusing as you can never be 100% sure how the other person feels, but they i guess you can't in real life either.

I don't know why they said that cuz its cruel *hug if ok*

We cant just turn off our feelings even if other people dont feel the same, just try not to rely on them for anything, for care or support or anything. I dont mean to sound cynical but it may keep you from getting hurt :star:

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Post by Diamond Dog » Sat Jun 26, 2004 4:37 am

Yeah that's good advice.

The thing is this guy was once burt bad by a cyber friendship so I didn't think he'd turn around and do it to me to. :cry:
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Post by Neko » Tue Jun 29, 2004 9:15 am

I'm sorry that happened. Maybe he's just afraid that you were going to hurt him too, and decided to do it himself so he wouldn't feel hurt by you when he thought you were going to do it to him? I know that's what i would do.
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Post by Vampyrella » Tue Jun 29, 2004 6:24 pm

Ah, that is bad. especially because you can't do anything about it.
Though i can't believe that he doesn't care for you at all if he's been talking to you for 2 years.

I don't have the right words, but i wanted to show my sympathy
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Post by Diamond Dog » Wed Jun 30, 2004 3:57 am

Neko-He knows I would never do that. He knows that I'm vunerable and have no friends so I couldn't possible hurt another person.

Vampyrella-Thank you. I don't get it either. I thought we were close, but I guess it's hard to judge online.
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