Regrets Challenge

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Regrets Challenge

Post by disastercake » Sat Mar 05, 2011 1:37 am

:ylwstar: Challenge :ylwstar:





I want you to think of the one thing you regret the most. Ignore all the negative and silence the "what if." Now, think of at least one positive thing that came out of it. It can be simple or complex, emotional or material, but there will be at least one positive even from your biggest regret.



My Regret: Not going away to college and taking the partial ride offered. Instead, I stayed in this small town and attended community college because my bf at the time said he'd break up with me if I moved.


Positives:
:star: I know myself better. (i.e. what I want out of a relationship, what I will/won't tolerate)
:bluestar: I got my EMT license while waiting for the next round of distance-learning Bachelor in Social Work classes to start
:cystar: The instructors I have now challenge me and are wonderful, interesting people who I am happy to have in my life
:dkpurpstar: By staying here, I am in the middle of my friends. Some moved a few hours North, some move a few hours South
:grnstar: I am glad to know all of my classmates who are also interesting, wonderful people (we are a cohort since the program is distance learning and we have every class together until our degree is finished)
:grystar: I have a wonderful dog I adopted from the shelter, and two cats who I love very much
:pinkstar: Most of all, it has helped make me into the person I am proud to be today.
:bfly: -Al :bfly:

"...And once you have tasted flight,
you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards,
for there you have been,
and there you long to return..."
- Leonardo da Vinci

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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by Licentia Poetica » Sun Mar 06, 2011 5:25 am

Cool thread.

One thing I've been regretting lately is taking time out of my (very long) degree. I'm not totally sure I've found any positives, but I do know that I had no choice - I couldn't have gotten through last semester, and I have to accept that it'll take me a year longer.
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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by Neviah » Sun Mar 06, 2011 8:20 am

OK :)

My big regret lately is starting SI.

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:dkpurpstar: i found bus
:cystar: i made my friends here
:bluestar: i became a nest mod
:redstar: bus is a big part of my life
:lpurpstar: i am stronger for it

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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by mande » Sun Mar 06, 2011 1:56 pm

One of my biggest regrets is not going to college.

Positives:
:pinkstar: I moved to New York City
:pinkstar: I found a job that I adore that I don't need a degree for
:pinkstar: I've made wonderful friends here
:pinkstar: Met the man I'm probably going to marry
:pinkstar: Got out of a horrible living situation and learned how to survive on my own


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Looking at the positives, I think my biggest regret would have been GOING to college now.

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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by disastercake » Sun Mar 06, 2011 4:34 pm

Thank you for sharing, it's inspiring to hear :)

Licentia, could a positive be just the fact that you are continuing? It shows strength and determination not to let a setback stop you.
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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by Licentia Poetica » Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:39 pm

disastercake wrote:Thank you for sharing, it's inspiring to hear :)

Licentia, could a positive be just the fact that you are continuing? It shows strength and determination not to let a setback stop you.
Thanks :) That is the plan so far - I hope it works out!
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Re: Regrets Challenge

Post by Stormy Llwellyn » Thu Mar 17, 2011 12:19 am

Dropping out of college.


Positives:
:ylwstar: I learned to be an emt, advanced level, and voluntered for fourteen years.
:ylwstar: Went to several classes to learn to be a diesel mechanic.
:ylwstar: Secured a good job working on school busses so students in school have a safe ride.
:ylwstar: Became a parent and encouraged my kids not to drop out like me.
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God,grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference


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