On "Feeling" Fat [ED]

[Spidey]

I've been meaning to discuss this here on Coping for a while, but life has gotten in the way of my plans

I would like to encourage everyone to read Joyce's post in Sourcebook about "feeling" fat.

Remember, "Fat" is not a feeling. It is a physical condition, and a modifier to express negative feelings that we may have.

[volta]

thanks, spidey. i needed to read that.

[Roxi]

I've read that post...and often go find it when I have 'fat days' and have put it on the list of words which are not feelings (shit, crap, f!@ked up , fine , ok, whatever are not feelings ...but sometimes , I swear I could try and convince you {and myself} otherwise )

[jcarolann]

I can relate to feeling fat and looking fat. I am fat, and I can't stand the sight of me. I hate looking in the mirror, but I get so hungry at all times of the day.

I eat salads, but a couple of hours later, I am hungry. Sometimes I don't care about being fat, but at other times, I want to look slim and good so the men can whistle at me, and get my number. I am invisible right now. Why is this happening to me? Why am I fat?

It has nothing to do with food, but maybe my self-esteem. I don't want anyone talking to me, especially a man, and maybe this is why I am fat. I have a cushion that no man will ever touch. If this is the case, then something is seriously wrong with me.

I am fat and proud of it; a man has to like me for myself. Duh, men don't even look at me. I need to lose weight, but I am still fat. I need help!!

Carol Ann
MT Student
http://www.mtworkathome.com
www.myspace.com/carolannj

[musiclover]

thanks electric prophet, i really needed that.

[ChangeTheWorld]

i am struggling with this right now.

[badgirl22]

I am feeling fat today. I don't want to eat but I know deep down that that is not the answer. I just wish I could loose weight. I know I am ugly and not worthy of being loved, I just want to get out of my body. I want to si just to show me that I am as ugly as I feel. Help!
-Badgirl22

[Spidey]

I am wondering if society has become so fat-phobic that we equate fat with being unable to give/recieve love...

[Chaocontrol6]

It does drive me up the wall how fat is so feared thanks to so many media reports about obesity, health risks and so on. At no point do they ever talk about the people behind those that are overweight. These people have just as valid feelings as other people and I hate it when they are spotlighted as people that are "wrong" and have to do everything in their power to lose the weight.

Not quite sure where I was going, but what I am trying to say is that it doesn't matter what the shape and size of people, it's how they act that makes them special.

Jason

[Chey Kizoxie]

i never hear anything about the dangers of being too thin. Also I hate the "ideal weight" thing. it does not take into acount body frame or activity level. just a passing remark that bodybuilders will weigh more then the recomended ideal weight.

its frustrating/

[Artemisia]

this is true, but it's still damn impossible to shake this "my tummy's to big" sensation arg. hate this thing.

[Spidey]

Just a mod note to say that I've edited the first post so that it takes you to the link instead of broken HTML.

[kalayla]

I agree with chey about how they never say anything about being too thin is a health risk

[dao]

Not to mention how nobody talks about the risks associated with rapid weight loss and weight gain.

[breathing]

I still can't help but feel this way. I am ashamed of myself - not because of the way I think or feel, but because of how much I weigh.

[badgirl22]

I logically know fat is not a feeling but today that is what I feel. Fat. Ugly. I know I am fat, I am obese and I want to loose weight fast. I am ingaging in my ed and trying to be "thin" Fat people don't get happy. They don't get good jobs. THey don't get the attention they deserve. Fat is what I am. ANd I hate it!
How can fat not be a feeling? Cause that is how I feel right now.
-Badgirl22

[swirlish]

I logically know fat is not a feeling but today that is what I feel. Fat. Ugly. I know I am fat, I am obese and I want to loose weight fast. I am ingaging in my ed and trying to be "thin" Fat people don't get happy. They don't get good jobs. THey don't get the attention they deserve. Fat is what I am. ANd I hate it!
How can fat not be a feeling? Cause that is how I feel right now.
-Badgirl22

I'm sorry to say this, but this is bullshit. Fat people are happy. Thin people are happy. Fat people have good jobs. Thin people have good jobs. I'm fat and I'm happy. But you're right, people don't "get" happy, they make themselves happy. It requires work and it requires being honest with yourself and seeing beyond what weight you are.

What are you really feeling, because fat is not a feeling. "Feeling fat" is a cover for real feelings.

Mia

[kiwi33]

Badgirl, the next time that you see your T perhaps you could do some CBT work with her.

I think that it would help if you challenged your unhelpful thoughts:

Fat people don't get happy. They don't get good jobs. THey don't get the attention they deserve.

As Mia says, there is no evidence that any of those thoughts are true.

[badgirl22]

what are my real feelings? I feel sad and frustrated. I don't like myself and all I want to do is excercise cause that is the only place I feel like something will change. I do feel fat but today I just want to get outside of my body.

I know people who are overweight and they arn't happy because of that fact. I know people who are skinny who have a wonderful life and get what they want out of it.

ANyway, I just wanted to say that I feel as though fat is a feeling. THat is the way I feel.
-Badgirl22

[Nazgul]

That was a great read!

I'm coming into this thread late and so am going to ignore the above conversation.

"I feel fat" are the words I have been using lately to say "I believe I AM fat".

This is new for me, because it is a sudden weight gain caused by medication. That leaves me feeling.....scared.