do your parents know

im.falling.too.fast · Post by **im.falling.too.fast** » Sat May 26, 2007 9:49 am

I think my mum is getting suspicious, I hope she never finds out

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5th section · Post by **5th section** » Sat May 26, 2007 6:36 pm

It's less of an issue for me because I left home a while ago
...but at some point I do intend to tell them. Not now, because my family's been through a lot recently and I don't want to add to it, and because I want to wait longer until I've got more confidence in my ability to stop. But I hate concealing things from tham, and I feel like they'[ve got a right to know.

Weetzie Bat · Post by **Weetzie Bat** » Sat May 26, 2007 7:30 pm

yeah both my parents know. they found out by accident when I was about 10 so I started hiding it and they thought I'd stopped. Then they found out again when I was about 14/15. I'm 21 now and dont live with them anymore so they dont talk to me about it.

++Jigsaw++ · Post by **++Jigsaw++** » Mon May 28, 2007 12:09 am

My so called 'best friend' at the time told my mum when i was 12. I told her it was a one off thing and she believed me untill i was about 16 and getting ready for prom, scared from fresh cuts and my dress so i had to tell her again.

Now she's alwas suspiscous but wont say. I've made her believe that i've stopped by being brave enough to wear strappy tops - saying that i should be proud that ive stopped not ashamed that i do it. So i ontl do it where she will necer see now

mithz · Post by **mithz** » Mon May 28, 2007 12:39 am

My mum found out by accident after about 18 months of SI, but I came clean and didn't attempt to hide it. She made me go into counselling and stuff. After the counselling, I pretended that I had recovered and kept it secret for about 6 years... until a month ago. eek. Then my mum and sister found out by accident again and confronted me about it. But they haven't talked about it since that day.

amber_lynne10 · Post by **amber_lynne10** » Mon May 28, 2007 4:09 am

My mom knows i hurt(past tense) but thats really it. ive only told a few close CLOSE friends. but other then that, nobody really knows about it. and id much rather keep it that way, if my parents/family found out, they would flip their lid! and i hate therapy!

TheRockingHorse · Post by **TheRockingHorse** » Mon May 28, 2007 1:36 pm

well, these options just didnt really work for me...i dont really want to tell them, well, i sorta do, but sorta dont. i do want to tell them because then i dont have to worry about them finding out other ways and getting really upset, i dont want to tell them for the obvious reasons....questions, not understanding....

just thought i put my 2 cents in

riseagainst · Post by **riseagainst** » Tue May 29, 2007 6:25 am

my pe teacher saw my arms and then told my parents and they freaked out

twistddreamr · Post by **twistddreamr** » Tue May 29, 2007 6:53 am

my parents do not know nor to i want them to find out. it would cause too much chaos in my family to deal with. i'm already in counseling and the like so it would do nothing but hurt my family.

SplinteredGirl · Post by **SplinteredGirl** » Tue May 29, 2007 10:28 pm

i had a yes i told them.. but it didnt work

JohnnyBoy · Post by **JohnnyBoy** » Wed May 30, 2007 12:43 am

I have a verry obvious scar on my wrist and have stopped trying to hide it. I'm sure they know, but neither they or my step-mother (of the non-evill veriaty) have raised it with me, exept once when I came home from uni in a state with fresh cuts on my hand, but I used the 'there was alcohol involved... and posably a tree' excuse.

kreaTure333 · Post by **kreaTure333** » Tue Jun 05, 2007 9:10 am

My Mother knows that I used to. A friend told on me to a school counselor in Junior High. He forced me to tell my Mother. She sent me to therapy. Her finding out made things a lot worse for me.

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Tue Jun 05, 2007 9:54 am

SplinteredGirl wrote:i had a yes i told them.. but it didnt work

I added it in for you

green · Post by **green** » Tue Jun 05, 2007 12:14 pm

Yes, I told them. Eventually anyway. It took me 2 years though, as it's never something that comes easily. They've known for about 5 years now and I think our relationship is stronger because of it

Strawberry Droid · Post by **Strawberry Droid** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 8:03 pm

My mom might have seen some glances of scars but never said a word, so I hope she doesn't know. I don't want to tell them yet, it's too early: I need to be seriously sure before I attempt to explain it to them.

Sometimes it hurts that I can't be completely honest, but she can read my face. I can tell her my feelings. I don't want to hurt my parents by telling and then having a relapse.

monkey · Post by **monkey** » Wed Jun 06, 2007 9:47 pm

No, I never told my parents and never will.
They obviously noticed when I was young - say under 16 that I would have bruises and cuts, but as a boy thats easily put down to 'boy stuff'

Now its been years since I lived at home and theres simply no need to tell. It's none of their business. Just because people happen to be in my family theres no reason they should 'have' to know, or even 'have' to be supportive.
I make a choice not to wear Tshirt or shorts when they're around and its not really a hardship - far easier than going into either lies or explanations.

Brit · Post by **Brit** » Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:59 pm

my dad found out a year into it but didn't do anything, he made me promise not to do it anymore. but it only got to be a bigger problem. this year, my senior year, he got the authorities involved. a cop came to my school, my principal called me out of class, and i had to show him my arms. to make matters worse, he told me that he didn't know wat he would do if one of his best students was no longer here. then he made me go to the school social worker, and show her and then a cop. the cop made me go to the hospital where they told me i would have to stay for a 24 hour observation. that might have not been so bad except for the fact that i was stuck there for eight days.

sorry this was so long, im still a little bitter and hurt by the whole ordeal. i live in a small town and somehow when i got out everyone knew. it was horrible.

if anyone stuck it out and read the whole thing, thanks.

eleonor · Post by **eleonor** » Sun Jun 10, 2007 7:39 pm

My dad knows. I promised my best friend to tell him because she threatened me: 'If you don't tell him and keep doing that, I'll tell your granparents'. I live with my grandparents but they are old and ill - I wish they never know about it or they might receive a heart attack or something...
So I told my father. There was also another reason to do it - I saw my sister banging her head against a wall - I don't want such a thing to happen to her so I decided to warn them (rather him - my mum just won't understand). I asked my father for help, told him I need a p.doctor. He just told me to pray for myself...
Now I feel somehow free to do anything - not that it is right, but now it's not my secret. I've asked for help, he said 'No' - I'm not responsible anymore. No one cares - why should I?

Corlath · Post by **Corlath** » Tue Sep 21, 2010 6:38 am

i've said they don't know and never will but the reality is is that they, or hopefully just dad, will know soon.

I just to just bruise myself, it's been an on and off thing for the last six years and i've been doing it regularily for the past 6 months or so. For the first time, friends that i made at the begining of last year, have acctually noticed. There is one in particular who i trusted and when she called me out on it and explained her side of why she was worrid even though it was just bruises, something broke something in me and i told her eveything. Shes been there for me these last couple of months and when i completly shattered the other night and took a razor to my thigh i went to her the next day.

She has given me the choice of tell my parents or she will. So the decision is now out of my hands and in the next week or two i shall be having the conversation with my father. May God give me strength when i do.

Isis · Post by **Isis** » Tue Sep 21, 2010 9:41 am

i told my parents 3 years ago, but since i didn't really get any big reaction or help from them i said i stopped doing it.

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