Candys Coping Thread

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 1:37 am

Hi This is going to be my coping thread and I am knew at this and I am nervous. I have a coping box, with a puzzle of Hello Kitty and a journal of her that I can put stickers on for each day how I am feelings and write in it, I have my favorite tape that helps me relax,and I also write in my other journal. I like comedys like Reba and Standing Still,I think that is the name,I need a bigger box cause it does not fit all my stuff in the box. I take deep breaths to help me relax and focus my mind on other things. Does anyone here that have Borderline Personality Disorder? What helps you deal with the illness? You do not have to answer these questions if you do not want to. I still working on coping with the panic attacks that I have. I like to write,and I can not get back into it,till the anxiety goes away. I like cleaning my apartment and I enjoy swimming in the summer and taking walks. I hope that I am doing this right,my first time. I like collecting things like Hello Kitty,butterflies and cats pictures or anything else.I like Golden Girls. What helps me when I feel like SI,and the anxiety is to high I sleep it off,cause I can not do anything outside cause of the snow. I have a stress ball which helps me. I have cards from my boy-friend that makes me feel good and it lifts my spirits.I have a list of numbers that I need to call when I am not really doing good. Any suggestions for the box,will be helpful.I post on the bus which has helped me alot.Watching funny movies are good for me,when I am depressed. Please let me know if this sounds good,my first time.How do I put pictures on my post after I write,how do I do that? I will write more later on as I add things.Hanging in there.I also need to start writing positve things about myself,low self-esteem and that is hard for me to do. I will be back soon,with more ideals as I get them

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 3:04 am

yay you figured out how to start a coping thread!

did you find any cute pictures of stuff yesterday?

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 3:08 am

No, I have not. I am trying to learn how to put pictures where they are on the bus? I am still looking. I will be adding more stuff as I get them. Thanks

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 4:14 am

My Top Ten Distractions.

1) write in my journal
2) listening to relaxation tapes
3) posting or reading on the bus
4) going for a walk
5) drawing or coloring
6) watching funny movies
7) doing my craft book

listening to my favorite music
9) playing games on the computer
10) working with my stuff in my coping box

I will keep adding more things to help me cope

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 4:37 am

what sorts of stuff is in your craft book?

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 4:40 am

I have pictures of hello Kitty,butterflies,angels,my cat and my bird that passed away,stickers,and I have not added anymore so far,it is a scapebook and it is helpful,cause I have all the pictures that I like and what to remember.

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 5:55 am

I have Borderline Personality Disorder and I have a copy of Self-Care. I find it helpful as I hope it helps anyone else does.
1) Sticking to your treatment plan
2) Attending therapy sessions as scheduled
3) Practicing healthy ways to ease painful emotions,rather than doing SI
4) Not blaming yourself for having the the disorder,but recognizing your responsibility to get treated
5) Learning what things may trigger angry outbursts or impulsive behavior
6) Not being embarrassed by having this condition
7) Getting treatment for related problems,such as substance abuse

Educating yourself about the disorder,so you can understand its causes and treatment better.
9) Reaching out to others with disorder to share insights and experiences.

I hope this is helpful for anyone who has this disorder, I printed it off from other website and I am going to read it and help me through my illness and I hope it helps others here on the bus

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 5:10 pm

I have been having panic attacks and I am having a hard time relaxing,plus I have a cold,can anyone think of better way to help me to cope and deal with the panic attacks,that is one problem I am having with right now.,plus I do not know how to put pictures on the bus after my post,besides that I am taking it easy and trying to get better. I hope that this coping thread has helped anyone. If anyone wants to PM,me they can, I am here for others as well.

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 5:34 pm

I'm glad you're trying to cope.

http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=108822 Check this out for panic attacks.

Hang in there. Hope the cold gets better.

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Candy · Post by **Candy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 5:58 pm

Thanks for the information. I will be posting more stuff on my coping thread real soon,just need to get some rest,cause of this cold,anyone is weclome to write to me if they like. Take care all

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:12 pm

happy Friday Candy

rest can feel awfully good when you have a cold

balletomane · Post by **balletomane** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:41 am

Hi Candy. It seems we like the same TV shows.

I hope you can get some rest and feel better soon.

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 2:59 am

I took my medications,cause the anxiety was to high,and even though this is my coping thread, I am going to put this here,cause it will help me to figure out what causes my triggers, I had a slip with SI,and I realize that when my mother starts on me or I get into a fight with someone,I feel like I need to be punished,feel real,or I can not take the emotion pain,and one of the coping skills that I have use in the past,was to wear a rubber band around my wrist,I am trying to accpet my own illness which is Borderline Personality Disorder and it is not easy for me to accept. I hope that everyone understands why I posted this here,cause it is the only way I can talk about my new coping skills,which I need more and the old ones that help as well. I hope I am doing a great job at keeping this coping thread going. If anyone wants to PM, me or write to me on the bus,please feel free to. I like going shopping, and getting out in the fresh air helps me,but I have snow here,so that is hard for me. My boy-friend has been very supportive to me and he is a great help to me. I just need to get this off my chest and I hope you keep reading,cause it is helping me alot.

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:59 am

hi candy!

glad you started a coping place

i also like hello kitty

here is a picture of hello kitty for you

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angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 4:01 am

if you need some ideas for coping you can check out my coping space just clik on the link below in my signature where it says my coping space
i have posted alot of coping info

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 4:14 am

I got your picture,and I want to thank-you for it,I will print it off,I was trying to put pictures where they can be on the bus,but I do not know how to do it and I need help,you are weclome to PM,if you like to. I miss talking to you. I am doing better and I like the pictures you have on the cute thread.Is there anyway you can put anything on panic attacks on my thread for me. I do not have a web camera,so I do not know how you do it. I feel bad for messing up tonight,but I will keep working at it,and I will list more coping stuff and things that tigger me and hopefully I can help myself as well as others. I need to distract my thoughts and my thinking,and I pronise to get more stuff. Again thanks for the picture and I hope to hear from you.Take care I am taking it one minute at a time.

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 6:37 am

i sent you a pm with some pictures for you.
i hope that you like them.
let me know if you got the pm

thinking of you.

hang in there!
have a good weekendd

Candy · Post by **Candy** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 7:04 am

I love the pictures, I had to make them smaller,I hope you have a great night,and the same for the rest of you, I will be posting more of my coping things when I come back on and I hope they are helping you all. Have a great night to you all. I am doing ok

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:41 pm

here are some tips for self care:
i hope that they help

Tips For Self-Care
by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist

In this day and age of fast living, it can be hard to take care of ourselves. But it's important to find even a few moments here and there where you can do something good for yourself. I've written out a few suggestions -- take what works for you, and discard the rest.

Take time for yourself.
Having time and space to ourselves can help us feel refreshed. Even finding just five minutes where you can close your eyes and focus on yourself can help you feel better. But if you can set aside a larger chunk of time where you only focus on yourself and what you need to do, that's even better.

Do something nice for your body.
It's easy to ignore our bodies aches and pains, or to forget to take care of ourselves. But we live in our bodies. Try taking a bath with some bath salts, get a massage, ask someone for a hug, or just stand up and stretch.

Find some comfort.
We all need comfort sometimes, and it's good to recognize when we do and try to get what we need. You can call a friend, make yourself something warm to drink, wrap yourself up in a blanket, hold a pillow or teddy bear, write in your journal, eat a particular comfort food (whatever food makes you feel good), or find a smell that brings you particular comfort (some common smells are cinnamon, vanilla, lavender, baby powder, lilacs, bread being baked, and coffee brewing).

Transport yourself into another world.
We all need a break sometimes from the realities of our world. You can curl up with a good book, movie, or magazine, or just let your mind drift where it wants to go.

Be playful or silly.
Being playful and silly can bring out the kid in us, and help us feel more light-hearted. You can blow some soap bubbles, throw confetti around, make cookies, blow a dandelion puff and make a wish, watch the clouds and make up ideas of what they look like, hug your dog, rollerblade down the sidewalk, or swing on the swings.

Take a mental health day.
When you need to really take care of yourself and you're fed up with work, take a day off work, and then do whatever you heart wants to. Make the day all about things you want to do. A mental health day can help more than a week of Sataurdays.

Take a walk in nature.
Sometimes we forget to notice the world around us. Reconnecting with nature can help us feel more grounded and calm. You can go for a walk in a park, look at and feel the trees, really notice the sky, and breathe.

Do something you've been wanting to for a long time.
Is there something you keep putting off for when you have more time, or for a better time? Why not do it now?

© Kali Munro, 2001

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:42 pm

and this are tips for coping with a panic attack
you asked me if i had something for coping with anxiety, i only have this i hope that it helps

1. It does not matter if you feel frightened, bewildered, unreal, unsteady. These feelings are nothing more than an exaggeration of the normal bodily reactions to stress.

2. Just because you have these sensations doesn't mean you are very sick. These feelings are just unpleasant and frightening, not dangerous. Nothing worse will happen to you.

3. Let your feelings come. They've been in charge of you. You've been pumping them up and making them more acute. Stop pumping. Don't run away from panic. When you feel the panic mount, take a deep breath and, as you breathe out, let go. Keep trying. Stay there almost as if you were floating in space. Don't fight the feeling of panic. Accept it. You can do it.

4. Try to make yourself as comfortable as possible without escaping. If you're on a street, lean against a post or stone wall. If you're at the cosmetics department of the department store, find a quieter counter or corner. If you're in a boutique, tell the salesperson you don't feel well and want to sit for a while. Do not jump into a cab and go home in fear.

5. Stop adding to your panic with frightening thoughts about what is happening and where it might lead. Don't indulge in self-pity and think, "Why can't I be like all the other normal people? Why do I have to go through all this?" Just accept what is happening to you. If you do this, what you fear most will not happen.

6. Think about what is really happening to your body at this moment. Do not think, "Something terrible is going to happen. I must get out." Repeat to yourself, "I will not fall, faint, die, or lose control."
7. Now wait and give the fear time to pass. Do not run away. Others have found the strength. You will too. Notice that as you stop adding the frightening thoughts to your panic, the fear starts to fade away by itself
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8. This is your opportunity to practice. Think of it that way. Even if you feel isolated in space, one of these days you will not feel that way. Sometime soon you will be able to go through the panic and say, "I did it." Once you say this, you will have gone a long way toward conquering fear. Think about the progress you have already made. You are in the situation.

9. Try to distract yourself from what is going on inside you. Look at your surroundings. See the other people on the street, on the bus. They are with you, not against you

10. When the panic subsides, let your body go loose, take a deep breath, and go on with your day. Remember, each time you cope with a panic, you reduce your fear.

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