what's your anti-si?

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by meshugah » Sun Apr 30, 2006 8:38 pm

Throwing socks at a wall is good. Esp when you visualise a person that has pissed you off, if they are a reason for sh.
I also like to write songs or just generally write exactly what it is that is making me feel bad. It sorts things out in my head into more manageable parts. Bitesize problems!! :)
These are all great way to cope, btw. Will be taking tips and trying some. xx
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Post by forevercryingtears03 » Wed May 10, 2006 8:22 pm

Soft music.
Longgg and hot showers.
Painting my nails.
:redstar: Can you hear my cries? :redstar:

Screaming. Deafening cries. Looking around, wondering who's making such a racket and why they aren't being silenced. Then I realize it's me screaming.
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Post by angelic212 » Thu May 11, 2006 5:03 am

:blush: playing online computer games

:blush: drawing

:blush: watching the disney channel :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star: :star:

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Post by balletomane » Fri May 12, 2006 12:34 pm

making lists: lists of books I want to read, lists of CDs I own, lists of classes I want to take, wishlists :blush:
I like lists a lot.

Looking up and collecting pretty blessings from different cultures.

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Post by angelic212 » Sun Nov 05, 2006 7:11 pm

bumping this thread back to the top,

i think it should be a sticky!

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Post by Spidey » Sun Nov 05, 2006 7:51 pm

i dunno if i can make it a sticky, but i will see if it's on the sticky of important threads. and thanks for the bump!
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Post by 5th section » Sun Nov 05, 2006 9:26 pm

Yes thanks for bumping, I wouldn't have found this otherwise
things I've used include-
get outside and walk around, usually very fast
music often works, especially put on headphones and turned right up so i can't hear anything else (as long as this isn't SI'ing my eardrum!)
drawing on myself (sometimes works really well, other times useless)
assaulting empty plastic bottles
either bashing a pilow around, or putting it over my face and shouting and screaming at the top of my voice
...then one day I realised that the people you see in waiting rooms and car parks and on trains are really far more interesting. That they all have whole novels inside them, a fabric of scar tissues, photos and memories. They are comedies and tragedies and - more often - both at the same time.
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Post by wilson » Wed Nov 08, 2006 11:53 am

i usually go for a walk to the top of a hill and look out at the lights and listen to music...
but walking deff...
i also play my bass
or read a book
or call someone

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Post by Scatterbrain » Wed Nov 08, 2006 11:02 pm

-I try to get away from where I am (ie. take a walk, take a shower, etc.)
-I think about how many people would be pissed at me if I SIed
-I have a text message from my coach who has been very supportive of me. It just says "be good", but I know what he means and it makes me think of him and how bad it feels to let him down.
-Sometimes going running can also help

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I'm not here/This isn't happening"
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Post by angelic212 » Sat Nov 11, 2006 9:27 pm

:star: pming any one on bus

:star: posting on bus

:star: writing in my journal

:star: drawing and coloring

:star: my doggie

:star: listening to music either on my ipod or the radio

:star: dancing and stretching

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Post by Lynds » Wed Nov 15, 2006 9:18 pm

:star: (like most people have said) Driving somewhere and talking to the car about why I'm pissed/upset/angry etc also screaming at the top of my lungs in the car is good-no one can hear you! Unless you have a window down and you're passing a cyclist-woops!

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Post by angelic212 » Sun Nov 19, 2006 8:06 pm

watching disney movies

playing with my game boy

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Post by oneWayOneLifeOneLove » Mon Dec 18, 2006 4:18 am

:star: Watching the Stars
:star: Coloring
:star: Calling friends
surprises at ever stop sign
with its share of wrong ways and dead ends
statistice dnt help you with your future
they only tell u were youve been

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Post by acdcrocker1909 » Wed Jan 10, 2007 1:57 am

:bluestar: going for a walk.. even if its night and in my backyard.
:bluestar: music.
:bluestar: replaying a conversation between me and my band director in my head... its one where he had just looked at me and was like "be good." and like someone else had said.. I know what he meant by it.
:bluestar: jumping here on bus.
:bluestar: my kitties.. i love them.
:bluestar: sudoku puzzles are amazing.
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Post by one out of none » Sat Jan 13, 2007 11:21 am

I read my list of things I have to be happy about.

I look at my progress chart and say - do I want to undo all this?

I have a letter two of my ip friends wrote me, it's full of really nice things and inspires me to stay well.

I post here.

I have seven really thin beaded bracelets. After I get through each day, I can wear one more. On sunday I take them all off and start again.

Writing.

Listening to loud music.

Playing guitar.

Tht's all I can think of at the moment, but this is a great post. Some of the ideas are brillant. :)

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Post by zombiepeople » Sat Jan 13, 2007 6:42 pm

Wow, you guys have some really great ideas! :) I need to try a few of them. one out of none I really like your bracelet idea. I might try to do that.

Usually, I journal or draw (though I;m not very good at it, but I like to make comics)

listen to really loud heavy metal music (it soothes me in a really weird way. I swear, Slipknot has saved my life a couple of times)

Watching funny things like South Park (Matt and Trey are like gods to me!)

That's really all I can think of right now. I really like some of these ideas that you guys have though :)

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Post by Seeshellz » Sun Jan 28, 2007 12:21 pm

The Before and After thread has helped me today.

I filled out the Before questions, instead of going ahead and just cutting,

And I was able to stop myself from cutting! :star:
"If you learn from your suffering,

and really come to understand the lesson you were taught,

you might be able to help someone else who's now

in the phase you may have just completed.

Maybe that's what it's all about after all..."

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Post by angelic212 » Mon Jan 29, 2007 12:08 am

going to put together a list of anti si for me later im gonna watch a movie now for distraction.

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Post by smiles-of-pain » Sat Feb 03, 2007 8:30 pm

:star: run
:star: read a sad book
:star: watch my favorite movies
:star: draw something that means something to me
or something that is bothering me atm.
:star: sleep
:star: come here to BUS
:star: listen to sad music
:star: look at my photo album
:star: cuddle with my puppy, sparky
:star: paint my nails
:star: write poems
:star: write letters
:star: talk to people on messenger.. hi plantt! *waves*
:star: clean my room
:star: go to the movies

most times though, i don't think to do most of these things and go straight for the tools :oops:

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Post by angelic212 » Sun Feb 04, 2007 5:26 am

this thread has helped me so much.

i made my list of anti si and now i have in my recovery journal

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