A coping survey for yourself

[Catylyx]

Name: Sammy

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes...i'm stopping.

If so what is your motivation: my mind, i started to have a total mental collapse and i knew that if i kept up the way i was, my si would get to the su point...

Favorite coping skills: painting

Coping skills that work the least: *shrug*

Safe places you can go: don't have any anymore...

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): school, not knowing what to do about someone i love, general family issues.

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: drawing. if at work i'd probably just walk around and talk to customers.

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): pray. then try and call someone if i'm able to later

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 9 months...going on 10. had one bad relapse, but i'm back on board again.

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): fights with my parents. already being triggered and not being able to talk to my safe people.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Daniel, Nick, Sam...thats about it though...

[Guest]

Name: Rachel
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Reduce
If so what is your motivation: Less scarring, Don't wish to become suicidal
Favorite coping skills: Have none
Coping skills that work the least: Have none
Safe places you can go: Have none
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Anything that upsets me a lot
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Have none
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Have none
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 8 days
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Arguments, already having been triggered and having no-one to talk to
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Have none

[_____iamacliche]

Name: Ameh (xbarrelofmygunx
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Stop.
If so what is your motivation: I'm tired of hiding away and I don't need SI anymore.
Favorite coping skills: Music, Writing, Talking on MSN.
Coping skills that work the least: talking if I'm not in the mood.
Safe places you can go: My room, whitey rock.
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Parents, School (although I've left now).
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Breathing.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Breathe and think about what good will it do me if I do SI etc.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 11 weeks and 5 days.
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: n/a.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): not being happy with who i am.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):R, L, sister, sister in law etc.

[~*Yas*~]

Name: Yasmine
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: been SI-free for a while
If so what is your motivation: it's summer, don't want people to see my scars
Favorite coping skills: go out with friends, painting
Coping skills that work the least: getting drunk
Safe places you can go: uhm... anywhere public i guess
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): relationships, myself
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: (currently neither at school nor working)
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): want to be able to wear short sleeves in the summer, which keeps me from cutting my arms
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 52 days
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): negative image of myself and the rest of the world
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): my best friend, V, wouldn't know what to do without her

[troubles undone]

Name: Charlotte

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: reduse SI

If so what is your motivation: scars, family, having to hide/lie all the time

Favorite coping skills: Music, elastic bands, BUS

Coping skills that work the least: 3minute game etc

Safe places you can go: errr....bus, friends house

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): school/exams/coursework, parents, not being able to achieve my potential, screwing up

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: See Amanda, elastic bands

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Walk away/leave situation. If not possible, go see Amanda (mentor)

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: n/a

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Not have gotten so angry

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): seeing graphic pictures/descriptions of SI, food, weight, suffering, death, hating myself

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Mog, Kayla, Nev, Amanda, Claire

[Candy]

Hi this is Candy,
How can I post answer to these questins on line,I still new on this board and I do not know how to do this. It would help me alot to be able to copy them off or reply to them on line. Still struggling with SH and need all the support and help I can get,and this board has been very helpful to me.
Any advice will help me alot

Candy

[Spidey]

heya candy:

in order to copy and paste the answers, this is what you do:

go to the first post in the topic and highlight it. (you highlight by clicking on a word and dragging the mouse across while having the button held down), and then go to Edit in whatever browser you're using, and hit Copy.

Then you press this button on the forum:

and the post a reply page will come up. click inside the box where you type your text, and then go to edit and press Paste.

you have the answers! and then after that, you can answer the questions (just see what everyone else did for an example).

does this help?

[Candy]

This is Candy,
Thanks for your help I am still having trouble doing it,not getting it. Sorry not getting it.Thanks so much

[black_23]

Name: Simone

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Stop

If so what is your motivation: my b/f, close friends, wanting to not hide anymore

Favorite coping skills: Writing, Drawing, playing music, Red felt tip pen, elastic bands

Coping skills that work the least: Ignoring it, drinking through it,

Safe places you can go: my room i guess

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): arguements with family/bf, work stress, memories and guilt, alcohol,

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Elastic bands, lists, imagine replys make when get home on BUS

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): To write, to come on Bus if at home.

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 7 weeks and one day

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Pictures, su thoughts, memories,

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): G, L, J

[false_smiles]

Name: Amber

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Reducing gradully getting to stopping point

If so what is your motivation: my sister

Favorite coping skills: writting, cleaning

Coping skills that work the least: rubberbands

Safe places you can go: sweatshirt and t.c. buzz

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): family, friends, and school

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: writting

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): write when i feel like hurting, post on bus, turn phone off at 12:30

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 24 long hours

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: retreat to my sweatshirt not my room

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): other ppl hurting themselves while talking to me, my dad, oh a lot of stuff.....me getting mad at myself and other stuff....

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): S, J, K, & M

[Candy]

Name: Candy
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes,but it is hard to stop
If so what is your motivation: scars,family,friends and boy-friend,infection
Favorite coping skills: writing and walking,going out,painting and coloring
Coping skills that work the least:not using them when I need to Safe places you can go: out of the apartment
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): my mother,cutting,my weight,to many to list
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: none
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general) do not have one If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: N/A
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: call someone
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): to many to mention
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):friends,boy-friend,post on the bus,or call someone to talk to.
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[syn]

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI I have stopped
If so what is your motivation:redstar: I want to be healthy in mind and body
Favorite coping skills Writing, fire spinning, Yoga
Coping skills that work the least Drinking
Safe places you can go My home office, My coffeehouse, My bed
Identify stressors (be specific as poss):redstar: Work, and Interpersonal Conflict
If at school/work name good coping skills to use The Serenity Prayer
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general) I will call someone if it gets too intense.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:redstar: 6 months
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd NA
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss) All sharps, interpersonal conflict, depression
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one) My husband, My collective, My fire performing friends

[half/hearted]

Name: jae
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes, trying to reduce...
If so what is your motivation: tired of hiding it, tired of the guilt...and the itching. (Sometimes I think that's my biggest motivation )
Favorite coping skills: writing, drawing, talking to people on bus, exercise, and drawing fake cuts with marker (it really does work for me).
Coping skills that work the least: deep breathing, trying to "reason" my way out of it...oh, and EATING! That doesn't work, just makes me feel guilty!
Safe places you can go: ...bus? it doesn't seem safe at all at home
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): mom, my perfectionism, scheduling, parents fighting...
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: writing, drawing...
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): ...oh dear. Um...stall as long as possible, sometimes the urges go away. Otherwise, my safety plan is just damage control...not using dirty tools, always having bandages/Neosporin with me.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: almost two weeks, with two slips
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Hmm. Not having a tool right next to me. That was...unfortunate.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): feelings of inadequacy, rejection, imperfection, guilt, fear of my mom
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): My therapist...and my friends on bus--wonderful people like shellshell, xGirl_Anachronismx, beautiful_facade, and all the rest...you guys are wonderful.

[lotus]

Name: Lotus

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes-not sure which

If so what is your motivation: my niece, my partner, therapy, wanna feel healthy

Favorite coping skills: cleaning/organizing, time with friends, grocery shopping (could be dangerous at times though), writing, reading, music, yoga, walking in the woods

Coping skills that work the least: SI subs like rubberbands and ice

Safe places you can go: bed, coffee shop, bookstores, yoga class

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): body image/food issues, fighting with partner, worrying about the future, depression

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: staying busy and around people, leaving tools at home

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): ummmm . . .sorta don't have one

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 3 days

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: called a friend

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): fighting with my partner, feeling ugly/fat, feeling abandoned or betrayed or angry, feeling numb or unreal or overwhelmed, flashbacks/intrusive memories

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): My T, my sisters or mom, B, C, J, S

[Storm]

Name: Storm

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Neither

If so what is your motivation:have no motivation to stop

Favorite coping skills: Have never developed any

Coping skills that work the least: drinking

Safe places you can go: No where

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): weighing scales,body image, general feeling of Fatiness,eating with family, family agruements, loss of control, people telling me what to do and how to do it.


If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Haven't developed any

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): None

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: a few hours

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: I would have done it no matter what

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): My mother, losing control of situations around me, overwhelming sense of anger

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Absolutely no one

[Neviah]

Name: Bex

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: trying to stop

If so what is your motivation: ben

Favorite coping skills: none other than SI

Coping skills that work the least: drinking, ice cubes, elastic band

Safe places you can go: ..nowhere

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): work, difficult people, home


If at school/work name good coping skills to use: i dont know.. coffee

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): None

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 1 week

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: i dont know

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): work, weight, bruises (im pale so i bruise easy)

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): ben

[Bluepeter36]

Name: Alli
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yea (trying its not working so well)
If so what is your motivation: not getting in trouble with my mother, being able to wear a bathing suit
Favorite coping skills: MUSIC
Coping skills that work the least: i dunno tring to wait it out till the urge goes away
Safe places you can go: idunno
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): anything even stupid little things
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: not SI'd but i had to
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): i dunno

[-Kim-]

ok lets try this

Name: Kim
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: trying to reduce
If so what is your motivation: Dale
Favorite coping skills: playing with silly putty or a stress ball, and playing the piano
Coping skills that work the least: doing drugs/drinking
Safe places you can go: um i dont think i have one
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): my parents arguing with me and school.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: writing down as many song lyrics as i can. getting up and going for a quick walk. reading somthing funny.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): for home if I start to feel really depressed and worry im gonna SI I usualy bake somthing cuz it takes a while somtimes and you have to keep and eye on it and stuff
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: i still am but I have been trying to reduce
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: NOT had a bath. called somone up or just done somthing destracting
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): talking about SI or talking about people being hospitalized.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): I dont have any

[5th section]

OK, just joined BUS (hi everyone!) and here seems a good place to start.

Name: Dan
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes
If so what is your motivation: it's more trouble than it's worth! especially the awkward questions
Favorite coping skills: either 5 minute game, or get outside and walk around very fast while trying to get my thoughts in order (sounds odd but it often works).
Coping skills that work the least: i don't really do distractions...the urge comes back after a while
Safe places you can go: haven't really got one
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): feeling like I'm a failure or worried i'm going to be, family fights, relationship breakdown
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: keep mind active (eg. I try to remember as much as poss. of a piece of music I'm learning), stay away from sharp implements
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): still trying to work one out. it's a bit hit and miss!
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: currently SI'ing
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: put the THING somewhere it wasn't so obvious! it was just sitting there, it was all too easy...
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): feeling like I'm a weird nutcase who'll never have a normal life. things to do with my ex, mainly beating myself up for having lost her.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): none so far but I'm working on it. vague plans to bring up the subject with someone I think I can trust cos I'm still not out.

[angel325]

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: sometimes, depends on the mood. some days yes, other times i just wanna keep doing it.
If so what is your motivation: i'm tired of hiding it from my mom, makes me depressed afterwards.
Favorite coping skills: writing a journal or just random stuff, taking a shower
Coping skills that work the least: calling people (i can never pick up the phone)
Safe places you can go: don't really know
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): school tests, teachers, school (felling i'm working too hard for no reason or purpose), seing myself in the mirror, being in a group of people, people making me talk, mom drinking.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: none, except just running away from there, then again the question is to where...
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: four days
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: just relax, convince myself i really didn't care if i failed the tesrt next day
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): my T, and a good friend who knows... the thing is i just don't have the strength to call them when i should, not sure i wanna call anyone at that moment