Rights and affirmations

Post by **strmdncr** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 7:34 am

I have posted this here for anyone who chooses to take what they wish from it for themselves. It is something that I have found useful in many situations and wished to share it. They don't all work for me all the time but I find most days there is at least one that hits a chord within me.

Your Legitimate Rights

-You have a right to put yourself first, sometimes.

-You have a right to make mistakes.

-You have a right to be the final judge of your feelings.

-You have a right to change your mind or decide on a different course of action.

-You have a right to protest unfair treatment or criticism.

-You have a right to interrupt in order to ask for clarification.

-You have a right to negotiate for change.

-You have a right to ask for help or emotional support.

-You have a right to feel and express pain.

-You have a right to ignore the advice of others.

-You have a right to receive formal recognition for your work and achievements.

-You have a right to say NO.

-You have a right to be alone, even if others would prefer your company.

-You have a right not to justify yourself to others.

-You have a right not to take responsibility for someone else's problems.

-You have a right not to have to anticipate others' needs and wishes.

10 Affirmations

1. I am responsible for my results; others for their results.

2. Others can only hurt or disappoint me if I let them.

3. I am in control of how I think and feel.

4. I am self-committed and know what I want and need.

5. I can conquer any dragons in my head.

7. I am conciously competent: I know what I'm good at and what areas I can grow in.

8. I do not need anyone's approval but my own.

9. I take the time to respond, not react.

10. I am responsible for my feelings; others are responsible for theirs.

*Just a quick note to say I couldn't find where I first read this so I don't know what number 6 is, my apologies. If anyone comes across it feel free to let me know*

Seeshellz · Post by **Seeshellz** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 12:34 pm

Thank you very much for this, I find these very valuable and helpful to my recovery.

I did have a copy of this at one time, but I lost it, so I am going to print a copy out for my own records.

Post by **Spidey** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 6:53 pm

this is a great thread that is going to be stickified

Seeshellz · Post by **Seeshellz** » Tue Feb 06, 2007 12:25 am

Thank you for stickfying it Pink Spider! I think it is so valuable!

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Wed Feb 07, 2007 9:18 am

Excellent thread.

We all need reminding of those every so often.

Smeagol · Post by **Smeagol** » Wed Feb 07, 2007 6:32 pm

Awesomeness!

one out of none · Post by **one out of none** » Wed Feb 07, 2007 6:54 pm

I just printed that out, it's a great list of the positives things to be thinking about. I like the 'sticking up for yourself' element in it too, like saying no and all that. Thanks for posting it.

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:34 am

thank you so much for posting this.

im printing it out now. this is just what i need right now
so thanks again

ProudPatriot07 · Post by **ProudPatriot07** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 5:41 am

These are awesome. I should print this and put it up in my room.

-Amy

Bella Muerte · Post by **Bella Muerte** » Wed Mar 07, 2007 7:30 am

These are fantastic! Thanks for sharing them, I find them really helpful. I'll remember these.

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Mon Mar 19, 2007 12:16 am

i know i already replied to this post, but i want to thank you for this post, i have printed out and pasted it in my journal.

thanks
very much appreciate it and really helpful

silentgirl · Post by **silentgirl** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 9:30 am

thanks,
this has been helpful, tho i dont use these all of the time, my counsellor is trying to reinforce these things etc.

hannah

disingenuouslad · Post by **disingenuouslad** » Thu Apr 26, 2007 2:42 pm

is there a 6th affirmation?

wilson · Post by **wilson** » Thu Apr 26, 2007 3:25 pm

disingenuouslad wrote:is there a 6th affirmation?

apparently not.

haha i didnt even notice that.

Beasty · Post by **Beasty** » Thu Jun 14, 2007 2:32 am

I love the 2nd affirmation. That is how I have begun to mold myself. That and the 8th affirmation.

Post by **strmdncr** » Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:19 am

hmmm...i did not realize i hadn't put #6 in there...i will have to try to remember to look at the original copy i have and see...sorry about that folks

VowsOfSadness · Post by **VowsOfSadness** » Wed Jun 20, 2007 5:56 am

vey helpful

I do not need anyones approval but my own

southsider · Post by **southsider** » Mon Aug 13, 2007 11:31 am

These parts resonated with me:

-You have a right not to justify yourself to others.
-You have a right to be the final judge of your feelings.
-You have a right to ignore the advice of others.
8. I do not need anyone's approval but my own.

I have recently started to realise how much stock I place in other people's opinions of what I do and who I am. It's been a long time since I was able to say simply "this is who I am" instead of "this is who I am, isthatokaywithyou??!"

Roxi · Post by **Roxi** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 2:43 pm

thanks so much for the list, I've just printed it out to read when i'm feelin upset or urgy...

thanks

Roxi

Silent_Tears · Post by **Silent_Tears** » Sun Nov 11, 2007 5:46 am

i wish i could understand an emphasis the affirmations for myself... but they all seem to fall flat... seem so far from how I really am. It would be a lie to tell myself these things... and I'm not suppose to lie... so where does that leave me?

sorry in a questioning and frustrated mode today. last time i read these i was fine with them but discouraged with the affirmations.

bus

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