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_MessedUp_ · Post by **_MessedUp_** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 12:44 pm

does anyone else have a habit of "testing" friends/family. you know, thoughts like "if they don't do this they don't love me or don't care" cos i do. and i know it's irrational but i can't help it.

_MessedUp_ · Post by **_MessedUp_** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 1:29 pm

guess not then

Ruby Tuesday · Post by **Ruby Tuesday** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 2:50 pm

i do and i hate it. most of the time I don't even mean to question them, their loyalty etc. but here I am setting traps for them to show they don't care about me. Which is a fine way to make people not like me - oh the irony!!

kissthesky46 · Post by **kissthesky46** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 2:50 pm

i do. i did it with my boyfriend when i just told him i SIed. at first he said he didn't care and while i was happy he didn't freak i also kinda thought "wow you don't care at all that i'm hurting myself?" but i talked to him later and he said that he did worry and he wanted me to stop... i tend to do it with friends too, but not so much.

_MessedUp_ · Post by **_MessedUp_** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 2:53 pm

i keep thinking it at the moment. my boyfriend is replying to my texts etc and i can't get hold of him, i just keep thinking taht he's gona off me, or that i've done something wrong and screwed up. i don't know what to do, i fifure, if he isn't bothered enough to contact me he doesn't love me anymore.

think my thinking is out of control

nirvana · Post by **nirvana** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 2:21 am

i do it too, subconsciously i think. like i know i shouldn't, but it's a habit i can't really stop.

sorry i don't have advice, but i can relate. *huggles*
love, tara.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 8:55 pm

...i see how mad i can get them. it kinda like i want to see, even if thier mad at me, if they will stay by my side. i hate it when i do it, but i can say that i have improved on it alot. anyway enough of my meaningless babble, hope you all have a spectacular day and holiday season! :1hug3:

aroobixcube · Post by **aroobixcube** » Fri Dec 24, 2004 9:33 pm

i can relate with this 100%.

I question everything my Bf does to track down what he's been up to in the last half hour, and then ask him again an hour later and freak if he doesnt say the identical thing he said earlier.

Ill ask what he is thinking, and question him over and over when i feel he has done something bad like not hung up a towel or something.

i question him all the time, and its difficult not to, aparently the reason i do this is becasue its part of my anxiety disorder and depression, i ave a lack of trust in men after being treated badly by men in the past (im 18).

could yours be from past fears, instability, self-consiousness, or an anxiety disorder.

i even tell em BF he is lying when he says i look good with my hair like that or in a certain top or something coz ill reply with, 'y? did you not like my hair as it was' etc.

It is a difficult thing to live with and even harder to gain control over it again, but it can be done.

Feel free to PM if you wd like.

Hope this helps,

take care.

amy. x

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