word-scars

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word-scars

Post by tenar » Tue Jul 13, 2004 12:00 am

a few days ago i put a thread about words i had cut, about how much harder they were to deal with than the rest of my scars
(its here --> http://busmail.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?p=993489)

so...this is something i have done to try to cope with my word-scars. its kind of helping me get my head round things and well, i thought it might work as a suggestion for some of the other people who posted in the thread

- i took an a4 sheet for each word i had cut, and each word on the top of each sheet
- i then wrote 5 headings
------ immediate circumstances that made me write insert word here on myself
------ general thought processes that led to this event/longer term patterns or thinking that led me to cut word
------ what i was trying to achieve by the cutting of the word
------ reasons why word is not fair on myself
------ ways i have moved on and ways i can move on from this word
- then i filled in the headings...just writing thoughts, lots of them....i'm going back to those sheets occaisonally, trying to work out what i was thinking and why its no longer me.

i'm trying to challenge the thought processes that led to me cutting that (because some of those feelings remain) and also trying to see it as something i can move on from. maybe i'm also working on the embarassment, cos i think a lot of my embarassment with one word in particular is from me not really knowing why i wrote it.

so anyway, thats my current summer holiday project. fun isn't it. it seems to be working more satisfactorally for the two words that are labels i gave myself, rather than the one random word that i still don't understand. something to work on i guess


hope you're all ok

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Post by XclippedXwingsX » Tue Jul 13, 2004 12:03 am

That was a pretty creative way to cope with the words you had cut... I may try that sometime.

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Post by littlethings » Tue Jul 13, 2004 12:09 am

Thanks. :)

I think I'm going to try that.

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Post by PinkPokaDottedBunnyRabbit » Tue Jul 13, 2004 2:11 am

that is a good way to cope with it. Myabe it will help you to cope with cutting in general. It's something that people can do with regular cutting. I 've something similar to that. For each scar I have I put a problem with it, and then solve that problem. when I have solved all of them, I search through my head for any others and start the process over. It has helped with some problems, but not with all of them.
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Post by Calluna vulgaris » Tue Jul 13, 2004 2:30 am

That's a really good idea!

I hope it works out for you. :)

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Post by Lyndsie » Mon Aug 02, 2004 7:03 pm

For my word-scars and design-scars i took each one and wrote what it meant to me and why i did it!

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Post by soulstory » Thu Aug 26, 2004 7:27 am

I have both word and symbol scars. Your suggestion is a very good idea... I just might try it! Thanks!
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