dont know what to do - little help ?

[SerenBach]

hey

im pretty sure i have depression and i have a lot of issues and problems and i used to cut to cope but i gave up 8 weeks ago. but im struggling to cope now. my mum has a vague idea of my depression but other than that know else knows.

i tried counselling but it didnt help. i do want to get better. im going to university in september and i dont want to turn up with all my problems.

im thinking of going to the doictors to see if i can get some anti-depressents but i dont want my mum to find out so im not sure if that it'll work cos im still 17.

also i was thinking about therapy where the thearapist can help me out and give me advice (the counseller didnt do any of that) i think i can only talk freely to a stranger cos id find it hard to talk to friends or family.

im just really stuck on what to do cos im fairly sure i cant beat all of it on my own.

any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks x

[Chaocontrol6]

I'm pretty sure at the age of 17 they wont have to inform your parents with regards to all of this. Besides you should be able to go into the doctor's and ask about the confidentiality that they offer before you do anything else. It is them that are able to provide you with what you need to combat this so it's best to see them if that is what you want.

Best of luck

Jason

[treasure]

you could let your mum knowing you're having some problems and thought going to the dr might help. would she say no or something? i'm pretty sure you can see the dr by yourself and what you talked about would be confidential, but you can ask just to make sure.

quite often it can take more than one t before you find one you click with, so it might be good to try again. generally you can get a referral to someone from your dr as they sometimes know what issues the t usually deals with (ie si or similar).

really well done on not cutting for so long by the way

[kat11]

i don't where you live, but most places in the US anyone over 13 is allowed to gone in for antidepressants. i still think it would be best to try to involve your mom at least somewhat - but i'd understand if you didn't want to.

i glad you haven't been cutting. great job on 8 weeks.

have you tried journaling? i know it's a good coping mechanism for a lot of people.

take care

[StevieLynn]

I totally understand where you are coming from. When I was 17 I had already been SIing for three years, was sad and depressed and older than everyone in my class. It was hard, and I didn't feel the school counselor helped either.

However.

When I got to college at 19 (I was a little older than most when I started college) I found a wonderful pdoc and a wonderful therapist and a wonderful nurse practitioner who all had my back. College has all these confidential resources.

I also offer this:

I hid my mental illnesses (yes, multiple) until I was 27 and ended up IP. And you know? While telling my family was hard, it was the best thing that could have happened. Now they can support me and begin to understand what I go through every day. So think on that, too.

Good Luck.

Love,
Stevie