Final star's coping space

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 1:39 pm

(I hope this is ok to do)

I wanted a space where i can go to have a coping thread. feel free to read along, and feel free to comment, give ideas, and whatever.

thanks.

i have written myself some questions for after i have SI'd to help me cope with it:

What was the reason for Si'ing:
How did it make you feel:
How can you avoid it in the future:
what can you do tio make yourself feel better:
Is there anything physically you can do:
What do you feel now you have done it:
is there anything you can do now to make yourself feel better:
Are you going to think twice before doing it again:

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 4:13 pm

What was the reason for Si'ing: got triggered by a TV programme, a lot of triggery materials in the programme, and I have been feeling very lousy all day.
How did it make you feel: brilliant!
How can you avoid it in the future: make sure i dont watch orogrammes which will include the same cntent
what can you do tio make yourself feel better: go for a walk, watch a nice film, keep tlking to L
Is there anything physically you can do: go for a walk
What do you feel now you have done it: better but worse
is there anything you can do now to make yourself feel better: no
Are you going to think twice before doing it again: yes

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 8:10 pm

i went out today and I too my little sister to my older sisters house. And diriving home on my own was realy good. I sat there wound the windows down, cranked the music up and jsut scfreamed along to the music as loud as possible it helped... it definately helped.

disastercake · Post by **disastercake** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 10:08 pm

you should have some before questions also

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:18 am

thats a good idea. I'll looka t them tomorrow i think

Chaocontrol6 · Post by **Chaocontrol6** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 10:59 am

Oooo this is a good idea, I hope doing this helps you to cope with urges and getting through the days

Jason

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:44 pm

^ i cant get rid of ya. tehe

Love ya hun.

How do i feel right now?
Why do i want to SI?
what will i gain by SI'ing?
How will I feel afterwards?
Can I cope without SI'ing?
Is there any distraction techniques I can use?
Is tehre anyone I can talk to?
Is there anyway to amke myself feel better?

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 9:28 am

How do i feel right now? rubbish. Like my world is fallng in and I cant stop it. I cant do anything to stop it.
Why do i want to SI? becuase i know it will sort me out. I know that when i do I will feel better and I will calm down, my emotions will run out of me and I will be less tense and happier.
what will i gain by SI'ing? Nothing., I will gain scars and guilt from Si'ing
How will I feel afterwards? Afterwards, I will feel brilliant for the first couple of hours, and then when what i have done sinks in and then Im gonna feel worse than i did beforehand.
Can I cope without SI'ing? to be perfeclt honest, I dont know. If i dont SI i will panic all day until i do, but if I DO, then I am gonan feel jsut as bad.
Is there any distraction techniques I can use? I am watching TV, and I am gonna have a bath and relax before wrk
Is there anyone I can talk to? not until 3 o clock. thasts when my mate starts work and she knows of my SI
Is there anyway to amke myself feel better? not that I can think of right now but If i think of something i will update this post.

Post by **Spidey** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 12:31 pm

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:36 pm

hey pink spider....

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 2:21 pm

went for a walk yesterday. Was very stressed, very angry and very urgey and upset, this was at lord knows what time in the morning, went around the woods with a torch and jsut sat on a couple of logs for about 10 minutes.
It was really good. It alllowed me to relax a bit and yeah, It was good.
Im definately going to be trying it again.

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 4:44 pm

How do i feel right now? absolute shit, and unloved, and unwanted
Why do i want to SI? im unwanted, Im not wanted anywhere, Im useless, Mean
what will i gain by SI'ing? everythingright now to be honest.
How will I feel afterwards? fucking fantastic
Can I cope without SI'ing? probably...
Is there any distraction techniques I can use? nope... the TV is taken up my my oh so amazing family who dont want me.
Is tehre anyone I can talk to? yeah, tlking to them now.
Is there anyway to amke myself feel better? nope, not unless i leave home

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Sat Mar 22, 2008 11:51 am

music- music to listen to to lighten my mood:

Leon jackson- believe
Shane ward- thats my goal
any disney movy songs
nickleback- rockstar
opm- heaven is a halfpipe
gloria gaynor- I will survive
yellow submarine (forgot who sings it)
beach boys- surfin usa

thats the main ones.

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Sun Mar 23, 2008 10:38 am

whoever would have though that sitting in bed lsiteninging to the rain would have calmed me fown
wonders will never cease hey.
im actuakly calming down uite wuickly, i knew i LIKED to lsiten to the rain but never realised jsut how much.
It helps, it definately does

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 12:41 am

watching 27 dresses... I hope it works.. I really really hope it works.

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:13 am

relaxing baths... they help. grab a good book, grab your favourite smellies and just soak...
its amazing..

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:05 pm

I was feeling really bad this morning, so i deicded to take my little sister and her friend with me to the moors.
Ended up at a place called "Hellman Tor" and sat staring at the views. I will psot some pictures now, it really helped calm me down quite a bit.

ultimate starshine · Post by **ultimate starshine** » Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:08 pm

talking to people i care about.

Wish upon a star · Post by **Wish upon a star** » Sat Mar 29, 2008 9:01 pm

Maybe thinking of a safety plan for yourself might help?

"When i am feeling down i can do ...... to make me feel better"

lily_trying · Post by **lily_trying** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:56 am

ok if i stop in to read?

i think this thread is a great idea, and i would second wish_upon_a_star's suggestion of a safety plan... when i've been able to get those together i know they've been a help in my experience. if you did want to do it & think it would help, maybe you could sort of compile all the various coping things you've posted about in your thread?

(sleep deprived, hope that made sense!

)

that photo is gorgeous, thank you for sharing it -- glad it calmed you a bit, looking at the photo certainly calmed me for a moment!

*sending good thoughts*

bus

Final star's coping space

Final star's coping space

Who is online