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Post by nitewalks » Thu Jan 03, 2008 7:34 am

* have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
yeah

* what had happened just before?
wierd stuff with my girlfriend (maybe)?? i kinda broke up with her

* what were you thinking and feeling?
guilt. i hurt her. i don't deserve to live

* why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
she SI'ed because of me

* how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
i never could have...i am trying to seperate from her so that when im gone it will be easier for her.

* were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
lack of sleep...of course there always is for me.
* what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
none....:(

* in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
calling her?? maybe webcam her
* name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
texting her???

* how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
i am seperating myself from everyone in my life...
* are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
yes...idk

* what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

none...i cant... fuck
Everything will be okay in the end, if its not okay its not the end.

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Post by LBC » Thu Jan 03, 2008 3:47 pm

Hi nitewalks

t's difficult to feel that you've upset someone.

Do you have a list of distraction techniques? There's a great list of distractions in "Sourcebook"...I find that something that makes me use the logical part of my mind, like Sudoku, puts me in a less emotional headspace.

Have you talked you your girlfriend since you posted? I hope you two worked it out...

Take gentle care.

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If you believe everyone is the future
If you believe that nothing ever goes wrong
If you believe that deep down inside you're really falling apart
Know that everybody's weak and everyone can be strong. - Sloan

You always have a choice.

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