A new coping strategy

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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A new coping strategy

Post by StevieLynn » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:43 pm

OK, so it's not new, really, but I've had this idea that I've started working on.

I'm an avid knitter, and often when I'm fighting urges (or when I'm sad, or happy, or anything really, I'm a little obsessed) I pick up my knitting. The thing is, I hate working my negative energies into gifts, because for me, each stitch in a gift is like a little prayer for the person I'm making the object for. So what I've done is this: I've started making myself a "safety blanket". I will work on it whenever I feel like it, but especially when I am feeling unsafe. I don't even use metal needles, so they can't be a danger to me; I use bamboo, so they're about as dangerous as a chopstick. When I am finished with the afghan, I will have an object to remind me of all the times I did something besides SI when the urge hit, and I will have a lovely wool afghan to curl up in when I am feeling unsafe in the future.

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Post by Binayshee » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:54 pm

what a great idea! :P

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Post by Licentia Poetica » Wed Dec 19, 2007 3:58 pm

That's lovely Stevie :)

I can't knit (I can never work out which way to do it, because I'm left handed, but I do things in righthanded ways :roll:), but I can crochet, and I find it soothing, albeit a bit repetitive.
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Post by Mayalaen » Wed Dec 19, 2007 4:18 pm

That's a really neat idea! It'll be great to have something tangible that you can look at and say that it's what you did instead of SI'ing :)
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