What do you see when you look in the mirror?

[my clarity clouded]

I hope this is not something that has been covered recently.

I am having issues with what my mind perceives when I look in the mirror. I can't seem to find anything I like about myself, and that only adds to all the negative self talk that I do. Only makes me want to cause myself physical pain to lessen the emotional pain.

I hate everything I see when I look in the mirror. How can I change that?

Someone? Anyone?

[yoursforever_me]

right, first off make a list of all the things you don't like about your appearence (if this means listing every part of your whole boy then so me it) with the one you hate the most at the bottem and hate the least at the top. work down the list and spend a few minutes each day finding something nice to say about X bodypart. so for example if your eyes are passable as ok and that's the top of the list spend the next however many days telling yourself you have nice eyecolour, shape, whatever. even if you don't believe it every day dedicate a few minutes to focusing on that part of your body and complimenting it. when you feel that you no longer need it on the lest of things you hate about your appearence cross it off and start on the next one until you love yourself!

[Licentia Poetica]

You'll find that you're not alone in that. I can't find anything I like about myself in the mirror, most days. What I try to do is change the things I can. Often, a new hair colour, or some "out there" makeup or a new outfit will make me feel good about myself. So I try to do that when I can.

The key, really, is to change your thinking. I am certain that you aren't as bad looking as you percieve yourself to be. Try to tell yourself 5 affirmations every morning. Look in the mirror, and instead of thinking, whatever "i'm ugly, my hair is yuck, I don't like my figure... " (negative thoughts), replace them with "This skirt looks good on me, I'm okay as I am, I'm beautiful because I'm me" (positive thoughts).

How you think about something will eventually change how you feel about it, if you stick with it long enough.

You might also want to check out this post in Sourcebook

[my clarity clouded]

thank you both for your responses

thanks for the link.

I have trouble with the positive self talk... maybe that thread will help.

thanks

[xStarBright]

I feel really selfish for saying this, but I hardly ever have that problem. I usualy wink or blow a kiss at myself then walk away...

But I had that kind of problem for a year or so, and I guess I kind of grew out of it. If I didn't like what I saw, I found an angle that I liked or simply walked away.