before

[Scoots]

Before You Self-Harm
write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself:

More Before Questions To Answer

• Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
  
  I feel really down, I feel lonely, I feel unable to express how I am feeling
• Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
  
  I have been here before but it was so long ago. I distracted myself. I talked about it.
• What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
  
  I spoke to F on the phone, I've been online, I've slept, I've read, I've watched TV
• How do I feel right now?
  
  Empty, alone, frustrated, my chest hurts and is heavy
• How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
  
  In control
• How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
  
  I don't know maybe guilty, maybe a failure maybe satisfied.
• Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
  
  I don't know if I can avoid it. Maybe I can deal with it better. I am alone. Husband is away and I can't get out because I have broken my toe. I need to work out how to deal with it better.
• Do I need to hurt myself?

Need to-I don't know. I just want it all to stop for a while.

[caged bird]

well done on answering the questions, did it help?

can you talk to P about how you're feeling, maybe a call to him would help? looks like you've tried some good things already though.
hope you feel better soon, xxx