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Post by 5th section » Tue Dec 05, 2006 4:12 pm

*removes post and looks embarrassed*
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...then one day I realised that the people you see in waiting rooms and car parks and on trains are really far more interesting. That they all have whole novels inside them, a fabric of scar tissues, photos and memories. They are comedies and tragedies and - more often - both at the same time.
- Anna James (1984-2007)

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- my band (or more accurately, the band of which I am the bassist) some SI/SU triggers in lyrics...proceed with caution...

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Post by Smeagol » Tue Dec 05, 2006 5:46 pm

Can you try and see it in proportion now? You say you're a perfectionist, and you've identified the negative thoughts you're having. Could you work that out more fully and challenge them, e.g. by writing down each negative thought and then writing down a counter-argument.

For example:

"I'm always letting people down". "No I'm not. Sometimes I make mistakes, but that's human. And I'm trying to help out - that's definitely not letting people down! The printer working isn't my fault either"
Act in such a way as to make yourself feel capable and effective

The change starts now.

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Post by 5th section » Thu Dec 07, 2006 10:32 am

Thanks for replying, it was a lot of help, and sorry my post was so whinging and self-indulgent! I didn't cut though, so at least it worked...
...then one day I realised that the people you see in waiting rooms and car parks and on trains are really far more interesting. That they all have whole novels inside them, a fabric of scar tissues, photos and memories. They are comedies and tragedies and - more often - both at the same time.
- Anna James (1984-2007)

son of ultimate starshine / brother of Eisa & Sprink / Birdie's ornithologist / married to Mande / Chey's uncle
- my place
- my band (or more accurately, the band of which I am the bassist) some SI/SU triggers in lyrics...proceed with caution...

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