After

[Guest]

have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
Yes.


what had happened just before?

I'd had an argument with my Mum, and I had spoiled the fun my Mum and sister were having


what were you thinking and feeling?

I was in my bedroom, feeling strong self-hate


why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?

It was the argument with my Mum

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.

I could have avoided the argument.

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?

I was very tired, that could possibly have made me snappier, leading up to the argument. I could try to get more sleep, but I'm not sure how.


what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?

I didn't. I was so angry at myself that I knew they wouldn't work.


in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?

There were none


name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.


how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?

It's not resolved, but I feel safer. I could apologise, but I guess I'm too stubborn


are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?

I am likely to, when I feel self-hate strongly.


what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

I will
*Try resolving the argument immediately
*Come on here
*Talk to a friend

[balletomane]

Hi Rach.

I will
*Try resolving the argument immediately
*Come on here
*Talk to a friend

Those are some good ideas.

What other coping skills have you tried in the past? Which ones worked and which ones didn't?

I hope answering the questions helped.

Take care.

[Guest]

I havn't tried any coping methods before, this is the first time I have done anything at all towards beating it.

Rach
xx

[syn]

I havn't tried any coping methods before, this is the first time I have done anything at all towards beating it.

I just want to congradulate you on trying something to stop SI. My best suggestion for working on coping methods would be to do some posting in the workshop and look up the thread on cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions are when our thoughts stray from what is healthy or realistic and leads to some of the feelings you described like self-hate. If therapy is an option it might be really helpful because they work on cognitive distortions a lot.

Distractions don't work so well when we don't have the tools to work on the thoughts that are making us feel so bad.

[balletomane]

Hi Rach. I agree with Redsyrinx, it's really cool that you are taking steps to stop self injuring.

I see that you've seen the scarily vast list on the coping board. I hope some of those strategies appeal to you.

[Guest]

Thankyou.
I will definitely see if I can find the cognitive distortions thread, and I will look again at the coping methods.