kharre's questions coping thread **si, su, others

[Angel12]

1. Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
living on my own, marriage is over, blah
2. Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
yes, but I either get out of it or si, feel crap after, but not so angry,

3. What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Stayed on computer all day, watch a movie and need to eat , no appetite,

4. How do I feel right now?
really low

5. How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
angry at myself

6. How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
ashamed, a failure for giving in

7. Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
I really don't know

8. Do I need to hurt myself?
sometimes, my head is like a timebomb

[Joseph]

Triggering Sex SI and the ramblings of a sex addict


1. Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
I am bad
No one can love me if they new about my behaviors.
I can only be loved if I am punished so that I can earn forgiveness.
I selfishly engage in my sexual behaviors when I should be doing something worth while.
I can stand my own company and am afraid to be alone


2. Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
I am imprisoned here when I am not doing. There is no relaxation when I am not sleeping, using

I act out sexually solitary for hours to make time and pain pass until I needed to be doing again.
I feel worthless and empty. A Perv

3. What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Today I am writing. I look for others that can relate to me without feeling ashamed. I am afraid if I go to any site other then this and another I am frequantly I will begin acting out again


4. How do I feel right now?
I feel stressed. Like I am clinging to a life raft


5. How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
weak and transparent. Just an object now worth human contact


6. How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
depleted. worthless. filled with self disgust.
The same


7. Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
I need to not seek others with my appetite. I am just lying to myself when I look. If I find someone who can accept my stuff and not be revolted it will happen on someone else s schedule


8. Do I need to hurt myself?
I do not need to hurt myself for things I had not control over

[Thelandri]

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?

I'm losing control again.

Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?

Get out of the situation. But I need a job, and there's going to be people that do this to me everywhere. Theres always someone. I tried to escape the issues but they have recently come back to haunt me.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?

Tried walking for so long that I was too exhausted to do anything stupid. Unfortunately thats not really an option at work.

How do I feel right now?

Under unneccesarry pressure. Scared.

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?

Like theres at least one thing that I can control in my life.

How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?

Relief. Then a come down most likely. Tomorrow I will feel a bit better because there will be someone else in the flat.

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?

I'm doing everything I can to get rid of the bully from the past. I just need to accept I can't control everything. Easier said than done.

Do I need to hurt myself?

Just because I feel that I do, doesn't mean that I should.