Advice please.G/F just told me she's bi.

[sk8erboy]

I know i havent posted in a while,but after hearing this from her today i didnt really know what to say or who to talk to it about to.We're not breaking up or anything,but she's really struggling and is ashamed of her sexuality and i dont know how to help her and feel a bit awkward when talking to her about it.I love her and I really want to help her.Any advice is greatly appreciated.

[bright.eyes]

Hey, sorry i don't really know what to suggest, just thought i'd reply anyway... I guess it may be a bit of a shock at the moment, but perhaps with a bit more time you may feel better/less awkward about it? And whilst you're trying to adjust to it you could ask her anything you want to know maybe? Sorry i'm not much help, take care

[nirvana]

try letting your girlfriend know you'll be there for her no matter what, and that she can talk to you about anything. she's struggling too right now, and it's a hard, personal subject that's not easy to discuss with many people. it'd help her to be reminded how much you love her, and care about her. she'll probably be a bit shy about it for a while, but as long as she knows you're there, she should eventually start to open up about it. it just takes time, but you sound like you'd really like to be there for her. good luck for both of you, pm me if you'd like to talk some more.

love, tara.

[Zebraseal]

I know how it is to be confused about your own sexuality... I assume it doesn't matter to you either way as long as she loves you? Then ou can tell her that, it's going to help her I know. Other than that, I don't have much advice to offer, because she has to fight her own fight, and you can just be there for her.

[pistachio]

just let her know that you will be there to help her, other than that there really isn't anything else you can do. pm me if ya wanna talk

[Listener]

Just let her know that it doesn't change how you feel about her and she doesn't have to be ashamed about it. However confused you're feeling, she's probably got it loads worse so just be there for her for now.

[Diamond Dog]

Struggling with ones sexuality is very difficult tell her you love and accept her no matter what and you'd never think less of her.

[Orange Crush]

All you can do is tell her you're there for her and try and make her feel less ashamed. Easier said than done I know.
It must have taken spme guts for her to tell you. I'm bi and haven't told anyone yet.

[littlethings]

It's great that you want to help her, and asked for help on the board.

I have to agree, listening is probably the best thing you can do.

Coming out is hard, but having someone who understands can make all the
difference.

JoAnna

[MrMan]

Just be supportive, let her know that you will be there.

If you think she can handle it ry making her laugh about it. Say that it is a great idea, and she should bring a friend over. You have a good chance that she will laugh and feel more at ease.... of course you have a chance she could smack you too.... Perhaps you should hold off on that idea.

[tenar]

say you are glad she could tell you

tell her you are there for her whatever

gradually let it be open...i dunno if you discuss people you find attractive in your relationship but i do in mine, and my tendency to fancy girls has simply become part of that discussion

defend her against those who criticise her for her sexuality and stress that it will take time but she will get used to it