Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by Luscious Peanut » Fri Oct 24, 2008 4:33 am

I teach kids (middle and high school -not little babies here- big 250 pounders) classified as 'Emotionally Disturbed.' Like, legally, they're emotionally disturbed. The thing that works every time, EVERY TIME, to keep them at peace with themselves and each other is clay... if I can weave it into a lesson. You can be gentle with it or forceful. It complies. It's malleable, if you hate it you can throw it against the wall, squash it and start over, squash it and spray it with water and use it to make something cool later, make something funky and expressive. Get some clay you can bake in the oven. Keep a bowl of water by you to keep it moist for when it wants to crack. Get your hands dirty. Get your hands dirty up to your elbows. It helps me a lot too.
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Post by lucky_lenny » Sat Dec 06, 2008 6:52 am

Wow... I've used this list before, but not for disconnection.

It worked :)
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Post by Katylee » Sun Feb 15, 2009 11:17 am

Here's something I just did: :)
Take strips of paper, write down all of the compliments you can remember recieving, and make a paper chain. It reminds you of how people *really* think of you, and makes your room pretty.
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Post by Joseph » Wed Mar 25, 2009 2:42 am

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Post by Spidey » Sun Apr 26, 2009 7:11 pm

I did this one: Put on some psycho loud classical music, or even John Williams or marching music. Pretend you're a crazy conductor.

I put on Tetsuya Komuro.

At the end I was crying from laughing so damn hard.
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Post by xXelmoscaresmeXx » Fri May 22, 2009 10:56 pm

:o

I came here urgey and now I don't even know why I was...I didn't even try any of 'em. Just read this list...wow...it's such a list...just...
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by Zangetsu » Sat Jul 11, 2009 12:46 am

i have to admit before i start i havent read the whole list (short attention span) but i now have it bookmarked on my computer for when im urgy.
Thanks for getting together this list. i can nolonger use having no coping methods as an excuse. i have a feeling this is really going to help, Thank you =]
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by sinfalcon » Sat Jul 11, 2009 8:53 am

Whoa... That is scarily vast.

I have one to add. Sometimes it helps me if I stomp up and down stairs for a while, and I mean really stomp. I imagine that I'm stomping on whatever's causing me to feel that way, and it makes me feel a lot better.

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by GibsonGirl94 » Mon Sep 14, 2009 3:07 am

Thanks for the list! A lot of new ideas there! :)

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Post by Spidey » Sun Sep 20, 2009 1:15 am

GibsonGirl94 wrote:Thanks for the list! A lot of new ideas there! :)

p.s. I'm new here
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Post by GibsonGirl94 » Mon Sep 28, 2009 2:55 am

Electric Prophet wrote:
GibsonGirl94 wrote:Thanks for the list! A lot of new ideas there! :)

p.s. I'm new here
Welcome to BUS! Have a welcome :moove:! It's tradition :)
Thank you! :)
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by Annybelly » Sat Feb 20, 2010 11:00 pm

wowza :)
thankyouverymuchly
methinks that i can get thro tonight now. there are other alternitives :)
thanks, thats transformed my mood, mindst etc completely.
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♥ "My thoughts are stars I can't fathom into constellations." ♥

♥ "I lit up like a Christmas tree, Hazel Grace." ♥

♥ "Things haven't always been this bad, therefore, things won't always be this bad." ♥

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by Annybelly » Sun Feb 21, 2010 3:13 pm

*does a little dance*
I got through last night, and quite a bit of that is due to the longgg list :)
Three cheers for the long list, if nothing else it reminds us that we can find other ways to cope, and we don't HAVE to hurt ourselves :)
♥ "Hope. It is the only thing stronger than fear." ♥

♥ "You're not a bad person. You're a very good person, who bad things have happened to. Besides, the world isn't split into good people and Death Eaters. We've all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That's who we really are." ♥

♥ "My thoughts are stars I can't fathom into constellations." ♥

♥ "I lit up like a Christmas tree, Hazel Grace." ♥

♥ "Things haven't always been this bad, therefore, things won't always be this bad." ♥

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by Lucky071307 » Sat Feb 27, 2010 7:39 pm

Wow! That is an amazing list!!! Just seeing how many ways to cope there are is helping me haha :)
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by pirateduck » Thu Mar 18, 2010 10:37 pm

I've always been a fan of running to help me. I like it because I can do it anywhere. I can do it alone. I can do it with people. I can run fast to just exhaust myself. I can run slow and long to meditate while I do it.
And, always, it helps get rid of the urgey energy.

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by fasterfastest » Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:37 pm

This list is amazing! Thank you all for contributing and thank you for putting it together. It's wonderful to see all of these in one place. It's kind of mind blowing to realize how many alternatives I have, especially at a time when it seems to be the only thing worth doing.
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Post by knocking » Tue Dec 28, 2010 12:14 pm

AMAZING list :)
Lots that I have never even heard of (or thought of).
Thanks !!
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Post by Descent » Sun Feb 20, 2011 11:04 pm

Thank you so much. <3
This gives me hope.
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by strider 151 » Mon Feb 21, 2011 12:32 am

i used to use this, and then i found it again. was very trigged, but by the time i reached the bottom of the list, i felt better and the trig has lost its grip on me. thankyou :cystar:
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Post by jadestarwalking » Fri Nov 18, 2011 6:59 am

I told my T about this list and I printed it out for her and now she uses it. She also has recommended the board to some of her clients. I love this list, I keep a copy on my computer, a printed out copy in my planner, and one in my overnight bag so I always have access to it even when I don't have access to bus.

Thanks so much, you have really helped me.

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