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Post by Inthebox » Sat Nov 22, 2008 1:51 pm

have you taken care of your physical wounds?
Good enough

what had happened just before?
Talked to T., alone in car

what were you thinking and feeling?
angry, not sure why I wanted to cut so much

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?

Called about 4 people. 2 not home. T. tryed to help, but it didn't work. Called my H. said I was going to cut, but he just said, no your not and changed the subject. He didn't take me seriously, didn't realize I really needed his help. I just wanted to. Needed to. Not sure why.
Being alone in the car was bad. Waiting for my daughter to come out of swim team.

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.

Well, could have spent time in a store. Could have worked with my T. differently? I don't know. I think I had already decided to do it, so maybe there was nothing I could have done differently. I could have left the glass home.

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
No, I could eat healthier. I am going to try that. I wake up a lot at night, toss and turn.

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I could have brought my journal. That would have put it off for a bit.
Nothing seems to work lately. I don't even know what is wrong.

in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
above - bring journal, don't spend time alone, don't bring glass


name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.

I'm 'in' cutting now, so when I want to stop, I'll try it.

how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?

NO. I don't even understand what is going on. I usually do better and understanding, but right now its only cutting and wanting to.

are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?

I am going to cut every day. I am in that emotional place.

what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

Wait 30 minutes. Thats all I commit to today.
"We think the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. The healing comes from letting there be room for it all to happen: Room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy." Pema Chodron

"There is room for all of your feelings - take a moment, be quiet and let there be room in your heart and the bursting will ease" C

"What a Long, Strange Trip it's been" Grateful Dead

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Post by balletomane » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:20 pm

Wait 30 minutes. Thats all I commit to today.
That's really good. It's best to start where you are. I hope things get better for you. :star:

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