after (2nd slip of years, first time doing this)

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after (2nd slip of years, first time doing this)

Post by amyfairy » Tue Feb 05, 2008 10:15 pm

have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.

it'll be fine, it's not much.


what had happened just before?

nothing major.
in fact, nothing at all.


what were you thinking and feeling?

felt unconnected, felt frozen.
thinking nothing.

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?

........

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.

..........

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?

No

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?

I didn't
Not really feeling like it was 'wong'... why not?

in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?

I could have done so many other things.

name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.

.....

how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?

it's fine.

are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?

probably.


what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

-interacting
-getting out the house
-staying with housemates

About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.



What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?


Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?

it was too easy.

What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?

I.. honestly don't know. There's always an opportunity?

If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?

Decreased.

What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?

Alone, everyone else busy making pancakes. :roll:

If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?

I'd probably get by it okay.

How can I deal with these feelings more effectively next time, before the urge to SI sets in?

just... make myself... God, I don't know.
these answers are shit. I don't know! It just felt like something I needed to do, and it didn't feel wrong.
and I'd only SI'd twice in years. but it wasn't an active decision to stop, it just happened. and I guess it just happened the other way round. i thought i'd give this a try but I don't seem able to explain.

I tried. and I actually do feel better for the SI. :purpstar:

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Post by ambersct » Fri Feb 08, 2008 5:56 am

Just wanted you to know that it's great you tried to answer the questions. Any that you answer are better than the none before now. I had a hard time the first time I did them but now I seem to answer more of them and get deeper into them. If you feel like it, look at some other people's and it might help you get some ideas for next time (if you need the questions again). Congratulations on attempting to do something different and look at what was behind it, that takes courage. I hope you keep trying. Good Luck.

Amber

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