How you feel & what you're going to DO about it.

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by Stripe » Fri Dec 14, 2007 12:57 pm

I feel very insecure about friendships and whether people like me
I am going to ask them outright
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Post by Binayshee » Fri Dec 14, 2007 5:04 pm

very anxious
worried about how something is going to turn out
worried about my appearance
sad about being alone today

* fill out my paperwork and get together all the things i need
* find out if class is cancelled
* clean the mess to help me feel more in control
* pray

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Post by Binayshee » Sun Dec 16, 2007 4:55 pm

wow i feel emotionally out of control.
like i could easily blow up. or overreact.
i feel angry. i think its a good idea if i
dont hang around the house too much
today. i need to get out and get my
mind off it.

* eat
* take some acetomenophen
* get a coffee
* go for a long walk

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Post by Binayshee » Sun Dec 16, 2007 7:23 pm

i did all those things but i still feel angry
i don't know what to do :cry:

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Post by Licentia Poetica » Mon Dec 17, 2007 12:40 am

Write down all the things you're anxious/ angry about and tackle them one at a time, maybe?
:redstar: the time to tell a person you care is now :redstar: the paper crane chain of hope :redstar:

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If we knew each other's secrets, what comforts we should find.
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Post by Binayshee » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:38 am

awww, thanks el. it actually paid off later
and things worked out pretty well. i wish
i could remember exactly what i did after
posting but i did eventually feel a lot better
and i know i averted disaster by walking.
i had woken up angry and hurt over some-
thing that happened the day before and
anger and hurt were building. so i walked
for like a mile and a half, deep breathing
and doing visualizations almost the entire
time. and even though i was still angry at
first when i got back home, i can see now
that it was useful. :D

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Post by Licentia Poetica » Mon Dec 17, 2007 8:49 am

well done :)
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Post by StevieLynn » Tue Dec 18, 2007 6:06 pm

I feel scared and unstable.

I am going to shower and work on my "safety blanket". (It's an afghan I'm knitting to help me feel safer.)

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Stevie
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And it felt like a winter machine that you go through and then you catch your breath and winter starts again, and everyone else was springbound. And when I chose to live, there was no joy, it's just a line I crossed. I wasn't worth the pain my death would cost, so I was not lost or found....But when you live in a world, well, it gets in to who you th ought you'd be. And now I laugh at how the world changed me. I think life chose me after all.
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Post by Cellardoor » Wed Dec 19, 2007 6:07 pm

I feel tired and a little overwhelmed.

so im going to eat chocolate and drink tea for a little while.
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(take the pieces and build them skywards)
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Post by Binayshee » Sun Dec 23, 2007 2:58 pm

physically ill
achy
tired
very upset/distressed and not sure why which feels upsetting itself
lonely
sorry for myself
afraid
fear over money, even had a dream about it last night
(now that i think of it, that could be partly why i'm upset)

*check on credit card
*take some acetomenophen
*drink a ton of water
*go back to bed for awhile
*write in a journal to try and get to the bottom of what's going on, i know it started last night
*meditate

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Post by xStarBright » Sun Dec 23, 2007 4:11 pm

Sick that the counciling service rejected me - everywhere I look it seem's there's something to do with counciling, and every single help leaflet or agony ant thing all it tell's you to do is get help.

I will try harder on my own. I will not get restless, deciding how to get revenge, which is what I usualy do. I find thing's very hard to let go of.. :o

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Post by troubles undone » Sun Dec 23, 2007 6:04 pm

rejected.
deflated.
lost & confused.

and im going to see if there is anything i can to to mean that this is not the case. talk to her a bit more. idk.
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Post by xStarBright » Mon Dec 24, 2007 12:03 am

Reading through my post, I really think I need to target something else...

I find thing's very hard to let go of & often seek revenge.

I have no idea on how to defeat this - but I will work on giving myself a good time, in order to forgive myself in whatever ordeal has passed.

Take care,
Annie.
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Post by Nursing_girl » Mon Dec 24, 2007 12:47 am

Tired
Urgy
Frustrated

*try and have "fun" watching football with my family
*make myself laugh at something
*have some tea
*avoid the bathroom (sharp objects...nooooo)...
*try and relax
*talk to people? even though no one is online...
*eat chocolate! :)
~~~Kristen~~~
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But I know a change gonna come, oh yes it will
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Post by Binayshee » Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:16 am

sad
tired
sluggish from being in the house all day
achy

*you know it acetomeophen
*do a little yoga
*take a shower

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Post by Binayshee » Thu Dec 27, 2007 5:53 pm

afraid
anxious
angry
upset
out of control

*shower, get dressed, clean kitchen, make breakfast

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Post by Typoqueen » Thu Dec 27, 2007 7:45 pm

sad
alone
exhasuted
cold

have a shower, wrap myself up in my fkuffy jammies and dressing gown and tlak to friends. Then get to bed t a decent time
Only ever look back to see how far you've come.

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Post by Li'lRuby » Wed Jan 02, 2008 12:51 am

Really really urgy.
Sad.
Disgruntled.
Unsettled.
Annoyed with myself.

Wrote a letter to my t. Will make an appointment to see him and I'll give him the letter. I'm going to try anyhow.
The old grey donkey, Eeyore stood by himself in a thistly corner of the Forest, his front feet well apart, his head on one side, and thought about things. Sometimes he thought sadly to himself, "Why?" and sometimes he thought, "Wherefore?" and sometimes he thought, "Inasmuch as which?" and sometimes he didn't quite know what he was thinking about.
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Post by whatever » Wed Jan 02, 2008 5:44 pm

frustrated and guilty
gonna keep distracting myself until i get tired enough to go back to bed and, hopefully, sleep.

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Post by Binayshee » Wed Jan 02, 2008 5:53 pm

"disgruntled," good word!

in pain
extremely fearful
highly emotional
on edge
lonely
shakey

*acetomenophen
*hot shower
*start doing things on my to do list
*put on some soothing music

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