Candys Coping Thread

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:29 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend and I are watching t.v.,and taking it easy. He is sleeping over tonight,cause we are going away tomorrow for the day,and we are leaving in the morning around 9:30 am,we are going to a Flea Market in Clarence,so I do not know what time I will be home,mainly in the evening. I am feeling pretty good tonight,and no SI either. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. My mother was nasty to me earlier,but I handle it great,by not listening to her nasty words she said to me,I love her,but not how she treats me.I will be just fine,and I am going to enjoy the rest of the night,and tomorrow as well.I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. I will be back on sometime tomorrow in the evening :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:13 pm

I had a great night,we watched t.v.,and relax. I did not do any SI either,that is great. We are going to be leaving soon to go down to the Flea Market in Clarence. I am going to enjoy myself and have a great time. Then afterwards we are going out for dinner. I am doing pretty good and feeling alright. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to be just fine. I hope everyone has a nice day. I will be back on the bus sometime later on :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 08, 2007 12:09 am

I had a great time with my boy-friend and we walked around alot;plus we enjoy ourselves. Then we came back and had dinner at Sunny's. I took a long nap,cause I was tired and so was he. We are watching t.v.,and taking it easy now. When we left Sunny's I saw one of my friends that does not like me anymore,due to the fact that I would not give her two cartoons of my cigs,she gave me a nasty look,and I did not let it bother me either,it was not worth getting upset for. I am proud of myself for handling it so well. I am feeling alright,and I am doing just fine.I have day treatment program tomorrow and I am looking forward to going. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I did not do any SI either,that was good. I am taking care of myself. I will be back on the bus later on before I go to bed. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 08, 2007 4:49 am

I had a great night with my boy-friend. I had a wonderful day today. He left to go home and get some sleep. I will be going to be bed soon,cause I have to get up early to go to day treatment program,and I am looking forward to it. I did not do any SI today,and that is great,it is not easy though but I keep fighting the urges. I am doing alright,and feeling pretty good so far. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine. I am taking care of myself. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:30 pm

I had a great night sleep. Then I went to day treatment program today and had a great time,then I met with my therapist she helped me alot. I am just relaxing and taking it easy. I am writing in my journal,it is helping me alot. I did not do any SI last night,that is great. After I get done writing I am going to lay down for awhile,till my boy-friend gets here,not sure what we are going to do later,I will find out when he gets here. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing alright and I am hanging in there. taking care of myself. Be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Tue Oct 09, 2007 12:07 am

I took a nap for awhile,and then my boy-friend came over,we are not sure what we are going to do yet. I am doing alright and feeling pretty good so far. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I going to take it easy and enjoy the rest of the night,no matter what we do. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Tue Oct 09, 2007 5:08 am

I had a great time with my boy-friend,we went out for awhile. We are sitting here watching t.v.,and relaxing. After he leaves I will be going to bed,cause I am getting tired. My nurse is on vacation,so I will be doing my medication tomorrow on my own,and then I have cleaning to do as well and the rest of the day is mine. I am hanging in there and feeling alright. I have not done any SI tonight,and that is great. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Tue Oct 09, 2007 2:44 pm

I am doing alright so far,I just found out that my friend died yesterday,I am not sure what happen. I am feeling depressed and shock about it all. I am just keeping myself busy by cleaning and staying safe. I will be alright. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I have not done any SI so far,and I know that I am going to need to use my coping skills more now,just taking it slowly. I will be ok. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Tue Oct 09, 2007 7:31 pm

I am doing alright. I finish cleaning and took a nap,cause I was so tired out. I am feelig alright,just in shock about my friend and very upset. I did not write in my journal today,cause I did not feel like it and I was so tired out, I will write in it tomorrow. I had a pizza for dinner and my boy-friend will be over later,not sure what we are going to do. No SI so far,that is a good thing. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine.taking care of myself. Be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by one out of none » Tue Oct 09, 2007 8:15 pm

Hi Candy, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, that can be really hard to deal with. I hope you're okay, and keep looking after yourself.
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Post by Candy » Tue Oct 09, 2007 11:41 pm

Thanks for the nice messages. I am doing alright. I just keep sleeping today,just worn out or in shock,do not know why I keep sleeping. I did write in my journal earlier and it helped me alot. I did not do any SI so far,that is great. I am taking care of myself and looking after myself. My boy-friend is here and we are going out for awhile. I know that nights are hard for me and weekends can be hard for me with SI. I am doing alright. I will be just fine. I have day treatment program tomorrow,looking forward to going in. Again thanks for the messages. Hanging in there. Be back on before I go to bed. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Wed Oct 10, 2007 5:04 am

I had a great time with my boy-friend,we went out for awhile and then we came back to my apartment to watch a movie. He just left to go home and get some sleep,and I will be going to bed real soon. I have day treatment program in the morning,and I am looking forward to it. I did not do any SI today,that is great. It was not easy for me either. I miss my friend,and it does hurt alot. I will be alright,just tired. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow evening. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Wed Oct 10, 2007 1:03 pm

I had a rough night sleep,but I did not do any SI either. It was hard though,but I am made it. I am getting ready for program and I am looking forward to going in. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus later on :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Wed Oct 10, 2007 8:57 pm

I had a great day at program and it helped alot. I am going to take it easy till boy-friend gets here. I will write in my journal tomorrow,cause I am tired out and want to take it easy. I did not do any SI so far,and that is great. I am feeling alright and my moods are stable. I am going to enjoy the rest of the evening. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I miss my friend very much and she is always in my heart. I am taking care of myself. I will be alright. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Thu Oct 11, 2007 12:14 am

I took a nap cause I was so tired out. I am watching t.v.,with my boy-friend. I am not sure if we are going out or not. I have not done any SI so far that is great. I am doing alright and feeling pretty good. I did not write in my journal tonight,but I will write in it tomorrow. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I have day treatment program tomorrow and I am looking forward to going in. I will be back on the bus later on before I go to bed :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Thu Oct 11, 2007 4:43 am

I had a great night with my boy-friend,we went out for awhile and had a great time. He went home to get some sleep and I will be going to bed real soon. I did not do any SI tonight and that is great,it has not been easy for me. I have day treatment program tomorrow and I am looking forward to it. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am feeling depressed over the lost of my friend,and she will always be with me. I am doing alright and I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow evening. I will take care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Thu Oct 11, 2007 8:25 pm

I want to say that I had a good night after my boy-friend left,but I did not cause I slip with SI,cause I had trouble dealing with my emotions over my friend deaths ,and it has been hard on me. I already talked to my therapist about it,she thought writing a letter to my friend will help me,for some reason I do not want to feel pain over this,so I hurt myself instead. I have been doing SI so long,it has been so hard to stop,and there are times that I think there is something wrong with me,it is how I feel. I had a good day at program,and my therapist helped me alot. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am writing in my journal and my boy-friend will be over later on. I will lay down after I finish and take a nap. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself I will be just fine.
I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Oct 12, 2007 2:51 am

I am doing alright so far. I wrote in my journal and then I took a nap,cause I was so tired out. Then my boy-friend showed up and we watched a good movie,now we are watching t.v. I still feel bad about slipping with SI last night,but I am not trying to think about it and focus on just the moment and it is not easy,but I am trying. I have to get blood work done in the morning and my case-manager will be over in the afternoon,and the day is mine to do positive things. I am going to take care of myself.I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Fri Oct 12, 2007 4:55 am

I had a great night with my boy-friend. He just left to go home and get some sleep,and I will be doing the samething real soon. I have not done any SI tonight and that is great,it has not been easy for me though,but I got through the night alright. I have things to do tomorrow to keep me busy and positive things as well. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus tomorrow sometime. taking care of myself. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by one out of none » Fri Oct 12, 2007 11:54 am

:1grhug:
Hi Candy, I know it must be really hard for you at the moment, I know how it feels to lose a friend too. But you will always have the memory of her, and although it might not feel like it at the moment, it will become easier to deal with as time goes on. I hope that your day goes well, take care.

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