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Post by amber_lynne10 » Sun Sep 16, 2007 11:29 pm

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
I will feel like i have control

what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
It will bring conflict with friends. take away my pain.

how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
If i hurt myself now it will bring conflict... i want to feel relived.

if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
Depending on how rough things are it will last about 1-2 weeks. when it wears off i will prolly think about cutting again.

what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
Read, do homework. It will distract me from SI`ing. it will last untill i finish my work/book.

how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
I will feel less...irritated. if i dont, i will feel less guilty

what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
To not self injure.

urges aren't necessarily the enemy. they happen for reasons, and they're an expression of a desire to stay alive and stay sane and keep coping. remember that.

More Before Questions To Answer

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
To much stress i should have known to avoid. to much stuff going on that i know i shouldnt have put on myself.
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
Last time i SI`ed when i felt like this... or i sat and read.
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
I hung out with some friends and tried to do my homework.
How do I feel right now?
Really tense, stressed out, upset, hurt, betrayed.
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Relieved, guilty.
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Relived and very guilty.
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
If i can work tword better handling my stress.
Do I need to hurt myself?
Part of me believes i do...

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