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Post by Candy » Sat Sep 01, 2007 2:52 pm

I am doing pretty,I had a great night sleep. So far I went to my mother's to visit and that went great. I am going to watch t.v.,for awhile and get things done around here that I have not done lately. No,SI at all,that is great. I am going to have a great day and enjoy myself. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sat Sep 01, 2007 7:45 pm

I am doing alright. I took a nap for awhile,cause I was soo tired out. My boy-friend will be over in a hour. We are going out tonight to visit some friends.it will be late when we get home. I have not written in my journal yet,but I have been soo busy lately,and I have been using other coping skills,if I do not get to it tonight,I will do it tomorrow. I have not done any SI either,great. I am watcihing t.v.,and taking it easy. I will be fine. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Sep 02, 2007 12:59 am

I am doing fine. My boy-friend and I went to Walmart and then we went to Wendy's to eat. We are watching t.v.,and then we are going out to visit some friends,we will be back late. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I have not done any SI today,and that is a great thing. It has been hard on me,but I take it one day at a time. I did not write in my journal today,but I will write in it tomorrow. I am feeling pretty good,and I do not feel anxious either. I am hanging in there. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by caged bird » Sun Sep 02, 2007 1:32 am

hey i hope it's ok for me to post, just wanted to say well done on all your hard work. sounds like you're doing a good job of trying to take care of you :)

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Post by Candy » Sun Sep 02, 2007 1:49 pm

Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me. It is ok to post here. I had a great night last night. I did not sleep very good,but I did not do any SI either,that is great. I am going to watch t.v.,and write in my jorunal later on. I am feeling pretty good,and my moods are fine. My boy-friend will be over later on sometime. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to enjoy myself today. taking care of myself. be back on later. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Sep 02, 2007 7:56 pm

I took a long nap,cause I was so tired from last night. I feel bad,cause I did not write in my journal today,but I promise myself that I will write in it tomorrwo,my boy-friend will be over around 4 pm,which will be in 1 hour. I have not done any SI so far,and that is great. I made myself dinner and all I have to do is my dishes. I am hanging in there and doing alright. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. My boy-friend and I will probably take it easy tonight and relax;plus we will probably watch a movie later on. I am taking care of myself. Be back on later :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Sep 03, 2007 1:48 am

I slept most of the day,cause I was soo tired.My boy-friend and I are watching t.v.,and taking it easy. I did not write in my journal today at all,but I will write in it tomorrow for sure. I have tomorrow off due to the fact that it is a hoilday,so I will be able to sleep in. I am doing alright,just bored for some reason. I am feel pretty good,and I did not do any SI tonight either so far,that is great. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am taking care of myself. I will be back on the bus later on :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Sep 03, 2007 5:51 pm

I had a great night last night,we watched t.v.,and after my boy-friend left I went to bed. This morning I went to my mothers to visit and when I came home,I did my nails,then wrote in my journal. I am doing alright,I am getting tired of my friends getting mad at me,cause my boy-friend will not do something for them. My friend wanted my boy-friend to move her,cause he had a truck,but he did not want to,but the problem is that he wants me to tell her,instead of doing it himself,and what happens is they get mad at me instead,and it is not my fault. I do not know how to handle this situation,and ideals,please let me know. I will be alright,just a little bit upset with everyone.Is this my fault or my boy-friend? I am confused. I also ordered a book from Amazon called " Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook,by Matthew McKay. I think it was the last book they had. It is like Marsha Linehan book,but it is differnt with exercises and stuff. Just wanted to let everyone know in case they have not heard of it. I am going to be alright. My boy-friend is coming over later and we have plans to do stuff. Iam going to enjoy my day off from program,cause it is a holiday. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to relax and watch t.v.> I will be back on later. taking care of myself. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:29 pm

I am doing alright. I took a nap,cause I was sooo tired out. I feel alot better since I posted before,I am not going to let it bother me,even though I am still upset about the whole thing. My boy-friend is here and we are going out for awhile,we have to go to Walmart,get something to eat,and visit some friends.I am going to enjoy my day,and not let this stuff bother me,cause I go back to day treatment program Wed. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am taking care of myself. I will be back on the bus later on sometime. hanging in there :bcatsmile:
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Post by one out of none » Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:51 pm

Hi Candy, it sounds like you're doing really well with the si and all, that's fantastic. That book you ordered sounds good too. I'm sorry your friends are getting mad at you, it is not your fault at all. Have you told your boyfriend about how they're reacting? Take care

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Post by Candy » Tue Sep 04, 2007 5:24 am

I just got home from visiting my friends,and my boy-friend left to go and get some sleep,we had a great time. Yes,I told my boy-friend how they are reacting,and he is not understanding how I feel in the situation,cause I am friends with them,and I just found out they are mad at him,besides being mad at me. I am stressed out and frustrated with the whole thing. I am going to stay out of this,cause I did not do anything wrong. I am hurt as well,my boy-friend knows how I feel. Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me. It helped me alot. I just have to take my night medication and then I am going to bed. I have cleaning to do tomorrow and then my nurse is coming over to do my medications. I will be fine. I have not done any SI today,and it was not easy with all of this going on,but I will be fine. I am getting tired and I will be going to bed soon. taking care of myself. Be back on tomorrow :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Sep 04, 2007 2:27 pm

I had a good night sleep. I am cleaning my apartment and I have a few more things to do,before I am done. I have not talked to the friends that are mad at me,a little nervous right now. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I am going to enjoy my day today. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus later :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Sep 04, 2007 6:28 pm

I am doing pretty good. I got done cleaning my apartment and my nurse came over and did my medication. I took a nap,cause I was soo tired out and I needed some sleep. I am going to watch t.v.,and do things that I want to do. I am hanging in there and doing the best can. I have not done any SI so far,that is great. My boy-friend will be over later on. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. taking care of myself. be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Wed Sep 05, 2007 12:53 am

I had a good day today,I slept alot,but I was soo tired out. My boy-friend and I are watching t.v.,and taking it easy.We went to Walmart and came back here. I am doing alright. I have day treatment program tomorrow,and I am looking forward to it,not getting up early. I have not done any SI so far,that is great. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. relaxing and taking care of myself. I did not write in my journal today,there is always tomorrow. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Sep 05, 2007 5:08 am

I had a good night. My boy-friend and I just watch t.v.,and took it easy. He went home to get some sleep,and I will be going to bed real soon. I did not do any SI today,that is great.I have day treatment program tomorrow and I am looking forward to going in,just not early in the morning. I am doing alright,and feeling pretty good. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to be alright. I did not get a chance to write in my journal today,but I will do so tomorrow. I did color today,which helped me focus on other stuff,which was good. I will get a good night sleep. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Sep 05, 2007 12:59 pm

I had a good night sleep. I am getting ready to go to program and I am going to enjoy myself. My friend was talking to me for awhile,but she is mad at me,cause she wants me to give her 2 cartons of cig,for 20 dollars,and I will not do it,cause I need them for myself,and she hung up on me on the phone. My mother and boy-friend thinks that she is using me,I feel so confused and mixed up,and they do not want me to hang around her cause she does drugs. I am so tired of all of this. I will be alright. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be fine. I will be back on the bus later :bcatsmile:
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Post by one out of none » Wed Sep 05, 2007 3:22 pm

Hi Candy, try not to let how your friends are behaving impact you too much, though I know that it's hard. You're doing really well, and I hope that you have a good time at program today.

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Post by Candy » Wed Sep 05, 2007 8:35 pm

Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me. I had a great day at program and the groups went really well. I am not letting my friends behavior get to me,it just makes me real mad inside,and it does bother me. I have been doing well,and I will not let them affect me in anyway. I just wrote in my journal and it helped me alot,with all the anger that I am carrying inside,to beable to release it. I am going to lay down for awhile till my boy-friend gets here,I am not sure what we are doing tonight. I will be alright. No,SI either today,that is great. My doctor at program saw me today,and she took me off of Paxil and put me on Lexpro,cause I am starting to get depressed,even though I do not feel like I am. I will be starting it tomorrow. I am taking care of myself. Be back on later :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:23 pm

I took a nap,cause I was soo tired out,and my boy-friend will be here in a little while. I am doing alright,just have a slight headache since I woke up,I hate that when that happen. I am feeling pretty good. I have not done any SI so far,that is great. I am not sure what we are going to do tonight,but I will be back on when I can. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. I will be fine. Be back on later sometime :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Thu Sep 06, 2007 5:37 am

I just got home from visiting some friends,we had a great time. I am doing alright,just a little bit nervous,cause I know that I will run into one of my friends that are not speaking to me,and I hope that person does not start with me at program tomorrow,but there is no sense in worrying about it,till it happens,I am going to enjoy my day there. I will be going to bed real soon,No SI tonight,and that is great. I am getting tired and I have to get up early in the morning,to get ready for day treatment program. I will be alright. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow evening. taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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