after

[sonumb]

* have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
yes

* what had happened just before?
watching my best friend flit with the guy I've liked for three years... feeling very alone and scared and like I couldn't turn to either of them or go home.

* what were you thinking and feeling?

like I needed a way out

* were there outside factors like drugs, alcohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?

Exhausted... but too tense to sleep... can take my sleeping meds sooner next time

* what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?

I tried to talk to someone I trust, but nothing came out and she had to go home.

* in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?


* how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
I talked to the guy and my best friend... but I think it's something I have to deal with... I just asked them to keep stuff like that hidden from me, beacuse it hurts, and if they ever get "official" to let me know and I'll deal with it then.


* are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
YES!!!!

* what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
- will call my friend who gets me, be honest
- will try to get to see someone (if it's daytime)
- try to move so that I don't feel pinned up

About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.


* What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?

I was driving alone, so no one could see or find out

* Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
Kinda just happened

* What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
sigh... would have gotten away so I could...

* If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
increased.

* What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
Being alone. period.

* If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
majority trapped


After You Beat an Urge
How do you beat your urges? Examine how you beat the last one so it can help you beat the next one.
I don't remember the last one I beat.

[LBC]

Hi sonumb

If it helps, it seems to me like you learned a lot from writing about this urge...how do you feel?

I think that the most important thing to come out of it was the realization that you need to be honest with your best friend and this guy about how stuff like this makes you feel. Like you said, it is your issue, but it shouldn't bother people who care about you to be a bit more discreet around you.

As for how it will be if they actually get together...do you have a t that could help you work out some ways in advance to help you cope with that, should it happen? It sounds like the hardest part of it is the shock of seeing them together...and there are ways of learning how to deal with sudden, overwhelming emotions like that.

You seem to be focussed on learning how to deal with the situation, and that's very positive. Definitely keep writing here if it helps.

[sonumb]

unfortently I'm new to this...
and the whole plans thing is like... insane in my mind.
see, the first person I ever told about my SI was this guy... and he totally accepted me and was there for me, you know, the person you could call at 3AM type thing.
so a plan...
does anyone have any ideas?