Candys Coping Thread

[Candy]

I just got home from program and I had a great day,things went better than I thought.I did not feel good though,cause I started my period and I have cramps and a headache. I am going to lay down and take it easy till my boy-friend gets here.Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me.My boy-friend is a big support for me and he helps me alot,and so do some of my friends and being here helps alot.I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing pretty good. I am going to lay down for awhile and I will be back on later.

[Candy]

I am having a great time with my boy-friend and we are watching t.v.,and we are going out to visit a friend later on,so I will not be on the bus till tomorrow. My mother is getting on my nerves tonight,and she is being verbally abusive to me and it is getting to me.I will be alright cause my boy-friend is here and we are going out and even though the thoughts of SI is on my mind,I am not going to do it,cause I am not going to hurt myself,cause she is not worth,and I know she will never change her behavior. I will be alright and I even wrote in my journal tonight and that helped me alot. I am very proud of myself for not doing any SI,even though I feel anxious right now,I am going to take care of myself. Being on the bus helps alot,I am glad to be here. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus tomorrow. I am going to enjoy the rest of the night. I hope everyone has a great night. I am taking care of myself,and loving myself. I am not going to let my mother get to me either. I will be alright.

[JadaKiss]

My mother is getting on my nerves tonight,and she is being verbally abusive to me and it is getting to me.I will be alright cause my boy-friend is here and we are going out and even though the thoughts of SI is on my mind,I am not going to do it,cause I am not going to hurt myself,cause she is not worth,and I know she will never change her behavior.

It's so good to recognize that we can't control other people or change their behavior. In life, we spend a great deal of time doing that... taking blame or guilt for things that are really out of our control. If someone is verbally abusing you, you can't help what comes out of her mouth-and shame on HER!- but you can protect yourself, if your circumstances are so- where you hang up the phone, or say "I'm not going to let you talk to me like this."

Either way, It's good to see you repeating the mantra that you're not going to SI, that you're roughing it out, and that you recognize that she isn't worth cutting over, nothing really is.... but that you've established that she is a case you can't control and it's not worth hurting yourself over. Whatever she said, UP HERS. (sorry) You're a beautiful, articulate, unique and special person who deserves positive people in her life, and not people who are going to break her down.... whether they are blood or not.

We love you here on BUS...... can I get a MOO?

[Candy]

I had a great time tonight visiting my friends,and my boy-friend left to go home and get some sleep. I will be going to bed real soon,cause I am tired and do not feel good,cause of my period,but I will be alright.Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me,it made my night. I am soo happy that I wrote in my journal. I want to say that you are a real nice person and very caring,and you are a good person. I mean that. Here is a moo for you, . I hope you are doing alright as well. Have a great night. I will be back on the bus tomorrow when I get home.I am getting tired and need some sleep. I am going to take care of myself,and get some rest. Be back tomorrow.

[Candy]

I am doing pretty good. I had a great day at today,even though it is hot outside,I enjoy myself. I also had a great time at program yesterday,and the groups helped me alot. I went out for lunch with a friend today,and I had a great time. I am sitting here with my boy-friend and we are watching t.v. I do not know what we are going to do today,but we will have a great time,cause at least we are together. I have not done any SI today or last night,and I am proud of myself. I did not write in my journal,and I will get back into it,it has been too hot for me to do anything. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I am going to enjoy the rest of the day and keep cool. I feel pretty good,just my stomach has been upset,probably due to the heat. I am going to be alright. I will be back on the bus sometime later on.

[angelic212]

just dropping by to say hi and to see how you are doing.

im going through a tough time right now.
thats why i havent been around . but i will be around more

i hope that you are doing okay

hang in there okay?

[Candy]

I have been keeping myself busy. I know that I have not been on for awhile,but I have not been feeling good,I have the stomach bug and I am trying to feel better. I have been busy with my boy-friend and we have been going out visiting friends. I have not been writing in my journal lately,cause I have not been feeling well,and I have been busy.I had a slip last night with SI and I feel guilty for it,and I know that I should of use my coping skills,but I did not. There has been soo much stress going on lately and other things that are bothering me,with the friends that are not speaking to me,that it got soo much. I just have to pick up my feet and try harder next time. I do feel bad.Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me,please hang in there,and take care of yourself. I will be alright and I am taking it easy.I am going to relax and take it easy,just not feeling soo great. I will be alright. I will be back on the bus later on.

[JadaKiss]

I had a slip last night with SI and I feel guilty for it,and I know that I should of use my coping skills,but I did not.

Don't worry about your slip. I've said it before, it's a part of recovering. Sometimes we just refuse to use those coping mechanisms we've learned as an alternative, and although it's not "good" it's still "ok." You don't have to "start all over," because tomorrow is a new day. You did what you could, and that's what you resorted to. It happens. Just know we are all going through the same thing, and this doesn't make you weak, and don't feel guilty. Don't make promises that you're not going to SI, because you just don't know when sometimes your will power is just too weak. Love you and take care.

[Candy]

I just got home with my boy-friend and I am really tired. Thanks for the messages that you sent me,it helped me alot,to understand why I SI and I feel better. I feel alot better and my stomach settled down. I understand what you were tellling me in the messages you sent me,and it helped me alot.I am just tired right now,and I will be going to bed real soon.I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. Again thanks for being there for me,and everyone else on the bus. I am going to bed and I will be back on later on.

[JadaKiss]

I just got home with my boy-friend and I am really tired. Thanks for the messages that you sent me,it helped me alot,to understand why I SI and I feel better. I feel alot better and my stomach settled down. I understand what you were tellling me in the messages you sent me,and it helped me alot.I am just tired right now,and I will be going to bed real soon.I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. Again thanks for being there for me,and everyone else on the bus. I am going to bed and I will be back on later on.

Well we love you and think about you, often. Rest up and try to enjoy your day. If you feel like you are struggling, PM any of us and we will be there to try and help you, ok? (((((((hugs)))))))

[Candy]

I have been sleeping most of the day,cause I was soo tired and my stomach feels so much better today,than yesterday.My mother is getting on my nerves,cause she is sooo verbally abusive to me and it can be hard to deal with and then I get upset and want to do SI,and when I start feeling like that with the urges,I either talk to my boy-friend or call someone,or come here to vent. I am going to take it easy today and relax,cause I have program tomorrow.Thanks for the nice messages and I will remember to PM anyone if I need to,and anyone can PM me if you need too,I am here for all of you.I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to write in my journal for awhile,before my boy-friend gets here.I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be alright.I will be back on the bus later on. Again thanks

[JadaKiss]

I'm sorry for asking, but I never did know what "program" was?

[Candy]

I went out with my boy-friend for awhile and then we went out for dinner,I thought my stomach good handle it,but I was wrong,the food was to greasey ,if I spell that word right,we went to Sunny's.Then we came home and I am taking it easy.My boy-friend will be leaving soon,and I will be going to bed. I go to a day treatment program,and I mention program instead,sorry about that. I am just taking it easy and relaxing. I have not done any SI today,and I am proud of myself for that,even though the urges are there,I have been fighting it.I hope that I feel better soon,it is like I do not want to eat anything,cause of my stomach,so now I am more careful of want I eat,to I feel better. I have to go to day treatment program tomorrow and I am looking forward to it,just want to feel better. I will be writing in my journal tomorrow in the evening,if I feel up to it. Thanks for the nice messages that you have been senting me,it has helped me alot,thanks. I will be going to bed real soon,cause I am getting tired,and I need some sleep. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow evening. I am going to take care of myself.

[JadaKiss]

Thanks for clarifying "program"... I was thinking of an outpatient progran part time, just to get into a group to talk and do some therapeutic things. I'd like to do art therapy, and write and share that. What do you do there?

[Candy]

I had a great day today,and day treatment went well. We have art classes,writing classes and talking classes,where we talk about our problems. I like the art and writing classes,and the rest are alright. I took a nap when I got home,cause I was tired and my boy-friend is here and we are watching t.v.I am doing alright and I have not done any SI lately,and I am proud of myself for that.I am going to relax tonight and take it easy. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I hope my stomach feels better soon. Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me,and I hope you are doing good. I will be back on the bus later on.

[Candy]

I had a great evening with my boy-friend. We talked and watched t.v. He just left to go home,cause he is tired. I am going to watch t.v.,for awhile and then go to bed. I have cleaning to do around my apartment and then my nurse is coming over to do my medication. I have tomorrow off from day treatment,so I am going to enjoy it. I did not do any SI tonight,and I am really happy for myself,cause it is not easy at all. I will be taking my medication soon and then I am going to bed. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing alright tonight. I will be back on the bus tomorrow sometime. Have a great night everyone. I am going to take care of myself

[Candy]

I am cleaning my apartment and getting things done around here,and when I am done I will write in my journal. I am doing pretty good and I had a great night sleep. I did not do any SI last night, I feel good about myself for that. I am going to enjoy my day and do pleasant things for myself. I am doing alright so far and taking it easy as well. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus later on.

[JadaKiss]

I am cleaning my apartment and getting things done around here,and when I am done I will write in my journal. I am doing pretty good and I had a great night sleep. I did not do any SI last night, I feel good about myself for that. I am going to enjoy my day and do pleasant things for myself. I am doing alright so far and taking it easy as well. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus later on.

You sound great today! I wish I had your motivation to clean. It's too hot outside, and I have a candle party tomorrow night, so of course, I'm goig to wait until the last minute. But good for you sweetie!

[Candy]

I am doing alright. I finished with my apartment,then my nurse came over to do my medication. I am waiting for my boy-friend to come over,and it is hot outside,glad that I got my cleaning done,early this morning. I am also writing in my journal while I am waiting,and I am taking a break for now. I am sooo happy that I am writing in it. I am glad that you are having a candle party,I love candles,my favorite scent is Lavandar.I hope you have a great time at your party.I am going to take it easy and relax till my boy-friend gets here,it is soo hot that my stomach still feels upsets. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to be alright. I will be back on the bus later on.

[JadaKiss]

I am doing alright. I finished with my apartment,then my nurse came over to do my medication. I am waiting for my boy-friend to come over,and it is hot outside,glad that I got my cleaning done,early this morning. I am also writing in my journal while I am waiting,and I am taking a break for now. I am sooo happy that I am writing in it. I am glad that you are having a candle party,I love candles,my favorite scent is Lavandar.I hope you have a great time at your party.I am going to take it easy and relax till my boy-friend gets here,it is soo hot that my stomach still feels upsets. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to be alright. I will be back on the bus later on.

Glad you're doing ok I love all kinds of scents, Lavendar is really good.. it calms me down. I just hope people show up. I can't afford anything right now, so I wanted to use the "Hostess Credit" lol.