a really bad anniversary is coming up

[Spidey]

tuesday marks the anniversary of an important person in my life's passing

this is an EXTREMELY difficult day for me. i've had trouble in the past getting through this day without decompensating and being a crying weepy mess or si-ing, and this year i would like to change that.

so what i am asking is if anyone has any ideas on how i can cope *positively* with this - things i can do...whatever you come up with is excellent.

also if you have any personal examples of how you have coped positively with a bad anniversary, i'd really like to hear them (just so i know it's possible...)

thank you

spider

[the edge of the world]

I hope it goes okay!

I don't have person experience with anything like that, but....

You could go someplace with friends. What kind of activities do you like to do? Maybe you could go to a movie, bowling, to a museum, or just hang out... idk, I think not being alone might be good.

Good luck!

[dncn4lyfe77]

I can relate. My aunt died 1 year ago today by killing herself. She was my role model and I loved her more than myself.

positive ways of coping ive found were to write a letter to her, then burn it outside if its nice weather ( i kinda see it as going up to heaven with the smoke) or make a colage or a nice memorial to her, visit her grave or do something in memory of her and remember the good times


thats just me, idk. I hoped I helped a little?

Sorry for your loss


sare

[krafter]

I am with you, April 3 is the first anninversary of my mother's death from pancreatic cancer.....she was diagnosed on valentines of 06 and gone april 3 06. That is the end of my family....I am suddenly orphaned, no cousins, aunts, uncles, etc....everyone is dead. If there is anything that I can say that would help you please let me know. I truly have no idea what I'm going to do on the third.......

[JustAlittleBitBroken]

On May 19 of 1999 my very best friend that I had known since birth was brutally beaten because his girlfriend was basically cheating on him with a few of the guys on our high school football team (she was head cheerleader too btw) and when he found out that she was at a party with them and he went over there to end things and the guys ended up beating him up. he was in the hospital for 3 days and ended up dying on may 22 of 1999. the dr said he died of massive blunt force trauma to the head. and even now 8 years later i still cant deal with the fact that he is gone. he never even got to find out that i was pregnant with my first child. i had just found out the day before he was beaten.

The only way i deal with it, is by sitting there and looking at pictures of him, and cry. i write him a letter every year, and can only wish that the guys that did it will have karma come kick them in the ass one day. Theyre walking around scott free now and have been for 4 years now. one even got his football scholarship back. i would love to go visit the rainforest one day where his ashes were scattered.

I dont know what else to say, except that i know what youre going through, and I do sympathize with you.

Stay safe and *huggies* if okay

[Digitalis]

Maybe you can plan a get together or sorts in honor of your friend, that way you can still morn, but keep yourself bussy planning stuff to make it a good party in their honor. After all your friend would want you to celebrate the time you had together, not morn over time that will be lost. They'd want you to be happy, because they love you.