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Post by 2crazy » Fri Mar 09, 2007 11:49 pm

i was just wondering how many others out there used drugs and alcohol in an abusive way to cope with life. i went through rehab for both about three years ago, and this is when i started cutting. it seemed i just went from one form of addiction and replaced it with another. now i'm trying to use the tools ive discovered on this site ei running and journaling. how many more recovering addicts are out there?

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Post by Silent_Tears » Sat Mar 10, 2007 6:27 am

not sure if i'd call myself an addict... but definitely use alcohol and my perscription pills in ways to knock myself out at times, though i too am trying to use different coping strategies to combat that and si urges.

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Post by 2crazy » Sat Mar 10, 2007 5:10 pm

thanks for responding, im here to find new ways too. hope we both find what we need. cindy

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Post by swanfaerie » Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:53 pm

drug of choice: alcohol. is it a positive, growth-promoting coping mechanism? NO.


to me alcohol, or drugs (and i include smoking and overeating...both of which i do) are maladaptive coping mechanisms because they are addictive (physically as well as psychologically) and instead of promoting growth and learning how to deal with our emotions, drugs/alochol, too much food are all ways to stuff.

not that i'm perfect cuz i'm not. i just think it's really dangerous when one stops a maladaptive way to deal with the world and doesn't have a healthy alternative to replace it with.


so, what tools are you using to help manage, stop your si?

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Post by scarlit_sky » Sun Mar 11, 2007 1:07 am

I am an alcoholic, but I have been sober for 92 days as of today (3/11/07). One thing that I have noticed is that my cutting got worse when I decided to get sober. I don't know why this is, but that is how is was for me.

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Post by flee the scene » Sun Mar 11, 2007 5:54 am

I use probably on a daily basis, and I have for awhile. I've been to detox 4 times, and it just hasn't clicked for me yet. Sometimes I use it to try to take my mind off of cutting, but that just doesn't work. Maybe I'm addicted? Maybe I just like getting high/drunk? I'm not sure yet.

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Post by 2crazy » Sun Mar 11, 2007 6:05 pm

i hope you find the answer you need. i found mine in rehab-took me three times, but i know i cant live with my pills or my alcohol. its better for my family and myself, they love the sober cindy.

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Post by VowsOfSadness » Mon Mar 12, 2007 3:26 am

I'm in a treatment center now for coke, before I had trouble with pills, it always seems when I drop somthing somewhere along the line I pick something else up. its quite sad
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Post by 2crazy » Wed Mar 14, 2007 1:20 am

that's my problem too. started with pot, moved on to alcohol, then when i got real out there i turned to pills. i was just recovering from these problems when the SIing started. my husband thinks i just want some attention and have to have something wrong in my life at all times. believe me i dont want people to know my problems. in fact, before this web site i didnt tell anyone, just my therapist who doesnt understand SI.

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Post by Digitalis » Thu Mar 15, 2007 11:10 am

I like being a happy drunk, wish I could have that again. I liked the walls it took down for me, but since I've been home I can't afford to be honest anymore. That and I don't like pot, got high only once, but it lasted too long and scared me. I like Foxy, but I can't really get that now. It made me feel at peace with everything, a feeling I really only had twice in my life. All in all I'm too much of a control freek to have drugs control me, which is why despite my anxity I was only on xanax untill I stopped having stomach pains that keept me from moving in the morning, I just see them as fun every now and again, but I wouldn't be able to take them all the time, I like feeling out of controll only a little bit, on my terms, I figure it's good for me to let my guard down some of the time. It takes a lot to keep it up, so on ocasion it's good to let it down, and cleen up the dirt behind it. (sorry it conflicts with other post, that's just how it affects me)
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Post by 2crazy » Fri Mar 16, 2007 3:12 am

my problem at the end of my using days was i drank and used until i was in oblivion. i didnt want to feel anymore, the same as when i cut. so when i knew i had to give up my drugs i had to have an alternative way to cope with life and my feelings. i hate to feel.

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Post by disingenuouslad » Sun Apr 15, 2007 9:12 pm

yeah. i've been cutting for about 5 years now, and for about 2 years i became really addicted to drugs and alcohol. i found that when i was using i didn't cut nearly as often as i used to. but then i went into treatment and i think i became able to really give those up because at least i had cutting to help cope with life sober and clean. and since i've been discharged i've since cut and i find it much harder to live without it. but at least here i can talk to people about it because normally i feel this huge sense of not being able to talk about it because most don't really understand or get scared when you approach them with this topic.

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Post by Quiet little Angel » Sun Apr 15, 2007 9:23 pm

i use alchohol every now and again... i wouldn't say i'm addicted... just like the effect of it...

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Post by 2crazy » Sun Apr 15, 2007 10:33 pm

i'm with you disingenuouslad. ive been using drugs and alcohol as buffers for my emotions for many years. then i went to rehabs and found i could stop for awhile. this is when i started cutting- 4 years ago to give me something to deal with myself better. i havent cut in 5 weeks now but its hard not having something to fall back on. im trying to use my coping techniques instead of cutting. thanks for responding with sincerity. cindy


quietlittleangel-it sounds like youre one of the lucky ones who can drink like a normal person. more power to you, i know i cant and sometimes i feel envious of the people who can cpntrol their drinking, wishing i could too. thanks for writiing. cindy
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Post by riseagainst » Mon Apr 23, 2007 5:44 am

about 3 months ago my 2 best friends were both sent to rehabs within a week
yeah i have problem wtih drugs and alchohal
dont get me wrong im the happiest drunk there ever was and i love them
ive gotten busted more times than i can remember and im only 17

i dont know how to do the quote thing but when you said you hate to feel...i hate to think, ill get stoned to the point where i can barely talk pretty much everyday i smoked alotttt of weed haha for a while i was dealing too, theres whole months i dont remember i would go through these big binges of different drugs pretty much i changed drugs when i got caught, whenever i was down i would just get stoned(shrooms not the best idea for this haha) to try to deal wtih it when i didnt want to si anymore
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Post by 2crazy » Tue Apr 24, 2007 2:38 am

i know where you're coming from riseagainst. i use to get stoned into oblivion. found i was using before and after work, not a good idea. you said 2 of your friends went to rehab. is there a possibilty you would get something out of rehab too? it took me three times to get the message, but whatever works. i hope you find a different way to cope. good luck, cindy
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Post by kittenjossee18 » Tue Apr 24, 2007 4:30 am

I sometimes drink too much to get rid of my problems but I will never do drugs, except for over the counter medication.
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Post by 2crazy » Tue Apr 24, 2007 4:21 pm

i wish i had learned that drugs were one of my weaknesses early on in life. ive hurt alot of people with my addiction problems. drinking too much, i did that too. unfortunately the problems dont go away when you drink, they just make the problems get bigger!
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Post by riseagainst » Thu Apr 26, 2007 2:39 am

well both of my friends are there untill there 18 and thats something i dont really want to do

ive been sober for a week and a half :lol:
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Post by 2crazy » Thu Apr 26, 2007 5:39 am

riseagainst,

i dont blame you for not wanting to be in rehab til youre 18. have you ever heard of alcoholics anonymous? im not saying you are or anything. just wanted you to know there are resources out there to help you if you feel you drink too much. and a week and a half, thats big! but try not to think that you will drink, just try to say, i wont drink today, it can wait until tommorrow. then tommorrow comes and maybe you wont feel like drinking then either.its worth a try anyway. my thoughts are with you,
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