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Post by styled_wrong » Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:58 pm

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
i will feel calmer at least and as though i can relax

what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
it will give me a new focus

how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
dont really kno

if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
the relief will last for a short time i dont know wot i will do then

what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
i could ring someone but thet awould not help

how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
shit on both accounts


Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
im just sick of me sick of being fat, and alone and shit at everything

Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
yes i cut and it helped at the time


How do I feel right now?
really quiet shitty


How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
releved


Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
cant seem to avoid it it allways seems to hapen

Do I need to hurt myself?
yes :cry:
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it's hard to answer the question whats wrong, when nothing is 'right'
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Post by teacher2B » Mon Feb 12, 2007 6:25 pm

i will feel calmer at least and as though i can relax
What is something you can do instead of si that will help you relax?
If you need some ideas, check out the sticky on the (I think) coping forum--its called something like "scarily long list of coping strategies." It's divided into categories, and one of them is stuff to do to calm you down/relax you.
One thing I find really helpful when I need to relax is to take a hot bath with bathoil, bubbles, lotion, etc. Sometimes, I light candles and put them in the bathroom to add to the mood. I just soak for a while--it's really relaxing. If I need to be away from my thoughts and just soaking doesn't help, I bring a book or magazine into the tub with me--just be careful not to drop it!
it will give me a new focus
Can you find something else to focus on? Again, I love the coping strategies on that list. Do you have any hobbies you like doing? Or even something boring but necessary like housework or homework (don't know how old you are)?
i could ring someone but thet awould not help
Why wouldn't it help?
really quiet shitty
Shitty isn't a feeling...can you pinpoint what's so bad about the way you're feeling? There's a feelings list somewhere on this board (I think it's stickied at the top of one of the forums). Can you identify with some of them? Are you depressed? Angry? Frustrated? Anxious? Lonely? Even if the answer is all of the above, sometimes it helps to pinpoint the exact emotions that are contributing to you feeling "shitty."

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