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Post by Neviah » Tue Jan 30, 2007 8:55 pm

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
I'll feel human and i wont be numb anymore

what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
it will bring me some peace and stop it hurting so bad

how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
i want to feel proud of myself, hurting myself will drive me away from that.

if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
About a night and then i'll be back in the cycle

what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
hold an ice cube, it'll take away the urge, don't know how long it'll last or what i'll do..

how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
i'll feel, dirty, down and depressed.

what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
i dont know.... :cry:

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Post by balletomane » Tue Jan 30, 2007 10:19 pm

Hi Neviah.

I'm sorry you're feeling bad right now.

What would you get out of SI? What other things can you do that meet those needs? Remember, you can use multiple strategies to avoid SI. For instance, I used to play word games, write in a journal, and take a hot bath all to deal with an urge. If one thing doesn't work, try something else.

What are three more things you can try?

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Post by Neviah » Thu Feb 01, 2007 9:00 am

talking to boyfriend

going for a walk

go to sleep..

the last one not such a great thing but i guess it delays it.

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Post by balletomane » Thu Feb 01, 2007 12:44 pm

That a good list though. Sleep is okay if you find that exhaustion affects your SI urges. :star:

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