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Post by collide » Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:28 pm

i just found out on MON my younger cat has FIV (like human HIV)...that was 2 weeks after i got out of the psych ward...i am devastated... :cry: :cry: :cry: ...i cry every now and then...the vet told me she could live anywhere from a short to longer life...i don't know but i hope to GOD that she would live longer with the steroids the vet gave her and also other tx i saw online...

so just need a lot of support, hugs, comforting words, ppl to just be there for me..

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Post by Lynds » Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:39 pm

I'm so sorry, mate.

It's so devestating when pets become ill...I've had a lot of experience with that unfortunately and it still upsets me years on.

I'm thinking of you and sending lots of ****hugs****

Take care of yourself.

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Post by collide » Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:43 pm

thanks lynds...yeah it hurts so much inside...2 nov's ago my sister's cat died from old age...then sometime last year one of my parent's cat got out accidentally and was never found....

it hurts 10x even more now... :cry: :cry: :cry:

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Post by black_23 » Fri Jan 26, 2007 12:33 am

oh hun Im so sorry. When your pets are ill it is such a hard thing to have to deal with. I'll be thinking of you huni and hoping everything works out. Is here for you. :1hug:
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Post by 5th section » Fri Jan 26, 2007 1:28 pm

that sounds terrible, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. thinking of you... :1hug: :1hug:
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Post by Licentia Poetica » Fri Jan 26, 2007 2:24 pm

I have a friend who's cat had that. It lived quite a few years after it was diagnosed.

I have a cat who means the world to me. I know it's difficult coping with this.

It's hard I suppose, but try to enjoy the time you have with your cat now. Mine's 20 years old so I know that.. he's not going to last too much longer.

Prepare yourself, but don't spend time crying that you could be spending playing with it :)

In the end I guess.. when pets die, you end up crying for yourself.. that you don't have them anymore. Because often it's better for them to be at peace than in pain.

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Post by collide » Fri Jan 26, 2007 7:37 pm

thanks black 23, 5th, licentia poetica

i really appreciate your support...

i think it's just the whole shock of finding out my cat had that FIV, and what the Vet had said, that she could live a short life or longer...that scared me so much and that's why i cry so much....but now it's more like being sad...i guess i didn't really know that FIV could strike a cat so young. esp when we had her tested when we first got her...

so yeah i do spend as much time with her as much as i can and enjoy just being there for her...and i am glad that my other cat is also there for her...she misses her playing with her, but still loves to sleep near her and groom her (she does that a lot that's why she has so many hairballs)...

anyways, still coping....anyone who prays, please pray too for me and my cat

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Post by zombiepeople » Sat Jan 27, 2007 5:27 am

I'm so sorry! I love animals and am sad when they get sick.
my heart goes out to you
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Post by Seeshellz » Sat Jan 27, 2007 5:46 pm

I'm so sorry Collide! :1hug:

My friend's dog is dying from liver disease and she is very sad and cries at times too, but she trys not to cry in front of the dog, she is trying to give the dog the best last years of her life, a happy life right to the end.

Just thought you'd like to do that for your cat.

I know it is very sad. I had a similar experience when my last cat got diabetes too. It is very sad when your cat is sick and you know they are gonna die, but you don't know how long they are gonna last.

I feel so much for you Collide.

You are in my heart and prayers. :pinkheart:
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Post by collide » Sat Jan 27, 2007 10:13 pm

thanks seeshellxz- yeah that's how it feels, just giving her much love but still knowing that she can die one day, or get worse really scares me and hurts me...makes me really sad...thanks for the prayers

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Post by catapiller » Sat Jan 27, 2007 10:22 pm

Hi Collide, so sorry to hear about your cat sending lots of hugs to you both :star:
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Post by TheAlmightyMogg » Sun Jan 28, 2007 10:15 am

sends big bar of chocolate

sorry but thats as much as i can manage right now in the way of support.....hang on in there

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