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Post by khushrenada » Fri Jan 26, 2007 5:34 am

I was talking to my ex gf earlier today. Anyways, she got to asking me personal questions like if I had a new gf, if I was still a virgin, etc. Anyways, I still am and I told her so. She starts saying I should have sex so I'm not a virgin. So, long story short, she kept on saying that and now I kinda feel like crap. So, here the question: am I right in my views that sex should be something more in a committed relationship than sex for the sake of sex?

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Post by 5th section » Fri Jan 26, 2007 1:23 pm

well I suppose my view is fairly similar - it's part of a relationship, not something you do just for its own sake.

...but that's not the imprtant point. why the hell does your ex think she has any right to interfere? This is for you & your current partner to decide and if anyone else tries to put pressure on you, tell them where to go.
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Post by Licentia Poetica » Fri Jan 26, 2007 2:08 pm

You have the right to defend and live whatever belief it is you hold.

Personally I agree with you.
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Post by zombiepeople » Sat Jan 27, 2007 5:12 am

I believe that you should have the right to choose what you want to do concerning sex, and that no one else should tell you otherwize. ...but that's just my opinion. Personally I think sex should be part of a relationship and not just something you do just for the sake of doing it, but again that's just my opinion.
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