Hard to choice which coping skills will help me
Hard to choice which coping skills will help me
I am having a rough time,even more so when I am alone,cause my thoughts are so much on SI,that when it does happen,I have a hard time stopping.It is hard for me to pick out the coping skills that will help me. I write in my journal and go for a walk,that is all I have. The nights are the hardest and when winter does come,and I can not get out,it will be the hardest also. Does anyone have any suggestions what coping skills that have helped them? I looked at the coping skills on the bus,and it seems like alot. I do not know which one to pick. I am very confused with this and my therapist told me to pick out my own,not very happy with that. I do have trouble express my painful emotions and that is the hardest part for me to do. It is so hard to stop and when I start thinking about it,I try very hard to focus on something else,but my thoughts come right back to it.anyone can pm me anytime,looking forward to mail,I get lonely alot. I hav not SI for two days now,very proud of myself,but each day is a struggle for me,and I know that I am not alone with that. I am proud of myself for not SI,just need to find different coping skills,beside the one that I am using,even though they help me,need to add more to my list.I am hanging in there.If you have any suggestions,please pm or me or post on the board. I will appreciate it,thanks. Just having a rough night,with my thoughts and feelings right now.Do the best I can.
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.
To find yourself,think of yourself first.
To find yourself,think of yourself first.
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nights are the worst for me as well. DIE INSOMNIA! i have always had trouble sleeping, but depression and si made that so much harder. i have been on some different sleeping meds. i can't sleep without it most nights. this would prolly your last resort. you can try taking a benadryl allergy pill, works for some people. yes, sleep as a coping skill....i think you just have to try different things and see what works for you. if one doesn't work, try something else. i know this is hard though, a lot of times i feel like i don't want to do anything.
winter sucks. my mom has seasonal affective disorder, she gets sad in the winter so we have this huge light box dealie that is supposed to help with that. dunno. didn't help me. i don't know where you are, but if you don't have a lot of problems with anxiety, finding a cheap gym like the ymca or something is good in the winter. walk around the track with headphones, sit in the sauna. i like swimming laps for clearing my head, esp at night when hardly anyone else is there. i think the best thing for me lately has been to get out of the house, but that's tough at night. god, i hate winter.
if you can do something as soon as you start thinking about si, before it gets too bad, that might help. baby steps. make little goals, like i'm going to make it until 12:00 without si-ing.
oh, i just figured it out. i keep squinting at the screen. forgot i took my contacts out.
yeah, and that's all for now folks, i'm driving myself crazy. gotta relax.
good night, candy!
**nights are the worst for me as well. DIE INSOMNIA! i have always had trouble sleeping, but depression and si made that so much harder. i have been on some different sleeping meds. i can't sleep without it most nights. this would prolly your last resort. you can try taking a benadryl allergy pill, works for some people. yes, sleep as a coping skill....i think you just have to try different things and see what works for you. if one doesn't work, try something else. i know this is hard though, a lot of times i feel like i don't want to do anything.
winter sucks. my mom has seasonal affective disorder, she gets sad in the winter so we have this huge light box dealie that is supposed to help with that. dunno. didn't help me. i don't know where you are, but if you don't have a lot of problems with anxiety, finding a cheap gym like the ymca or something is good in the winter. walk around the track with headphones, sit in the sauna. i like swimming laps for clearing my head, esp at night when hardly anyone else is there. i think the best thing for me lately has been to get out of the house, but that's tough at night. god, i hate winter.
if you can do something as soon as you start thinking about si, before it gets too bad, that might help. baby steps. make little goals, like i'm going to make it until 12:00 without si-ing.
oh, i just figured it out. i keep squinting at the screen. forgot i took my contacts out.
yeah, and that's all for now folks, i'm driving myself crazy. gotta relax. good night, candy!
~mandie
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