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half/hearted · Post by **half/hearted** » Sun Sep 03, 2006 9:55 pm

I'm having trouble doing my art homework, too--and it's a project I'm really excited about! I just keep...not doing it. I keep coming up with reasons to avoid it. And it's due on Tuesday, ack!!

There's a movie on tonight, and I'm going to try to work on my project while watching that.

MusicalMorphine · Post by **MusicalMorphine** » Mon Sep 04, 2006 1:00 pm

flipflopfetish wrote:Not being able to do work is one of the symptoms of depression, because when my parents made me see a T because they thought I was depressed one of the questions she asked me was if I was having trouble sitting down and doing work and I lied and said no.

Yeah. My mom actually asked my the other night if I thought I might be slightly depressed when I said I couldn't work. But I freaked out and left the room. Ha. Yeah I don't really open up to people so well. Especially not my mom.

mandie_girl · Post by **mandie_girl** » Tue Sep 05, 2006 6:09 pm

i'm a high school senior, but i'm going full time at the local community college, so i'm not at high school at all. i actually am really enjoying it. i didn't know that could happen! i missed most of school last year. i'm started to get stressed about homework though, because i feel more sad and tired lately. i con't focus. and i'm afraid i'm getting sick again. anxious, depressed. i don't want to go back to where i was. trouble coping with this fear.

MusicalMorphine · Post by **MusicalMorphine** » Tue Sep 05, 2006 6:24 pm

I'm going back tomorrow and I'm totally freaked right now, I'm not quite sure how I'm going to do it. I think the morning part, just getting up and leaving the house might be the hardest, might be okay once I get to school as it's the first day. We don't have class till like 3rd period anyway.

Sorry I know no-one cares but I just wanted to get it out.

marshmallowfluff · Post by **marshmallowfluff** » Tue Sep 05, 2006 9:59 pm

When i started year 11, Musical, I was having problems with getting coursework done and stuff cos i had absolutely NO motivation what so ever. Sooo... I spoke to my tutor about it, we sorted it out, and i'd go to her room during my lunch hour if i had coursework to do, and she'd sit with me and help me if i went off track, and she'd make me work. Eventually, i did get all my coursework done. She spoke to my teachers for me and they extended my deadlines as much as they could. What i would say though, is get it sorted before it becomes a problem. With my health & social care coursework, i left it ALL till the last week before it was due in. Well, one unit of it. We used to work on it every lesson we had, and i'd sit and doodle, or sit and chat to people, and in the end, i had one week to finish a whole until of coursework. I spent 7 hours a day on it for a full week -- working none stop from 5 till 12 every single night, and i only just managed to scrape a B with it. So like i said, get it sorted before it becomes a huge problem for you, cos thats the mistake i made. In the end I had 3 pieces of coursework to do in one night

definately not the best idea.

good luck!

flipflopfetish · Post by **flipflopfetish** » Wed Sep 06, 2006 12:37 am

i despise my school

i promised myself that i'd do better with coursework this year, but i haven't started off very well. i'm so wrecked from trying to be normal/cool every day that all i can do is come home and try not to cry, it seems.

sockr28 · Post by **sockr28** » Wed Sep 06, 2006 12:54 am

i think that this is a great thread! thanks jae!

i never knew that not being able to do work could be as a result of depression. i always balmed it on ADD (which probably adds to it).

I just want to try and encourage everyone to hang in there though. I know that school can suck sometimes, but it does get better! And once you are out, you might even miss it!

little pixie dust · Post by **little pixie dust** » Wed Sep 06, 2006 6:23 pm

struggling with school.

Anyone know how to concentrate on things..i seem to not be able to do anything..it goes through one ear and out the other

i am getting completly stressed out, i'm gonna fail everything and not get a job or get into uni *breathes*

flipflopfetish · Post by **flipflopfetish** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 2:03 am

little pixie dust wrote:Anyone know how to concentrate on things..i seem to not be able to do anything..it goes through one ear and out the other

My best strategy is to actually not try to concentrate. I distract myself with something while kind of trying to pay a little attention and I actually take more in than I realize.

Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 6:13 am

*sighs* uni is a kind of school.. right?

I can't work. at. all. blahhhhhhhhh

So much to do.

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 6:16 am

This is from sourcebook:

http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=41662

It's really useful.

little pixie dust · Post by **little pixie dust** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 4:15 pm

thank you for posting the link, that was really helpful.

Ta flipflopfetis, i know what you mean..i'll try that more often

MusicalMorphine · Post by **MusicalMorphine** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 4:44 pm

melting_snow wrote:When i started year 11, Musical, I was having problems with getting coursework done and stuff cos i had absolutely NO motivation what so ever. Sooo... I spoke to my tutor about it, we sorted it out, and i'd go to her room during my lunch hour if i had coursework to do, and she'd sit with me and help me if i went off track, and she'd make me work. Eventually, i did get all my coursework done. She spoke to my teachers for me and they extended my deadlines as much as they could. What i would say though, is get it sorted before it becomes a problem. With my health & social care coursework, i left it ALL till the last week before it was due in. Well, one unit of it. We used to work on it every lesson we had, and i'd sit and doodle, or sit and chat to people, and in the end, i had one week to finish a whole until of coursework. I spent 7 hours a day on it for a full week -- working none stop from 5 till 12 every single night, and i only just managed to scrape a B with it. So like i said, get it sorted before it becomes a huge problem for you, cos thats the mistake i made. In the end I had 3 pieces of coursework to do in one night definately not the best idea.

good luck!

Yes thankyou for that. I'll try. Unfortunately, my form tutor just left. I now have my old tutor back - a 32yr old bald R.E teacher. Not the best person to talk to me thinks. Plus I don't think I'd be able to say anything no matter who it was.

Post by **Spidey** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 11:55 pm

If you're in university and your depression / illness is documented by a doctor, go to your university's disability services center and talk to them and see if they're willing to help you.

If you are having trouble concentrating, trying breaking up work times into small chunks. When I was having trouble with concentrating, I would work in 2-hour blocks. I'd work for 2 hours, and then take a 15-30 minute break. I recommend not starting a new activity during your break -- just get up, walk around, use the toilet, drink / eat something if you want it, stretch, those kind of things, and then go back to work.

If you are having trouble with coursework - even if it's illness-related - TALK TO YOUR TEACHERS. You don't have to tell them what is going on in your head, all you have to say is that you are having trouble with the course and need some help. Most teachers (especially if you're in university) will be glad that you asked and help you as much as they can.

Bright Eyes · Post by **Bright Eyes** » Fri Sep 08, 2006 7:09 pm

^ Great advice, mercy snow, thanks.

Anyone else at college/uni struggling with homesickness or anxiety? I'm a transfer student and so far weekends are really hard - I don't know many people. I'm trying to get really involved, but so far my weekdays are looking super busy and my weekends are looking lonely and quiet.

There's still sooo long until our first break. I miss my family and my house. Even though I'm a sophomore, this year is a lot harder than last year because I'm farther from home.

Licentia Poetica · Post by **Licentia Poetica** » Sat Sep 09, 2006 12:18 am

I've just started uni this year, and anxiety has been a huge issue. Somedays I'm okay, somedays I never make it out of the house, and other days I fight panic all day long.

It's not nice, and it doesn't make it any easier to turn up.

But the thing about anxiety is, it feels fucking awful, but it can't hurt you unless you let it stop you from doing the things you wan't to do.

flipflopfetish · Post by **flipflopfetish** » Sat Sep 09, 2006 11:06 pm

I should do my take-home history test. It would be sad if I got a bad grade on what was basically a free A because I didn't finish it. Meh. Someone should hit me with a cattle prod until I finish the damn test.

little pixie dust · Post by **little pixie dust** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:13 pm

hey

Well i am struggling in pe because i don;t want people to see my cuts.

Do you think if i said to my pe teacher quietly..i have an infection on my leg, i'm a little subconsous could i get changed in the toilets, would that make sense? They normally go mental if you don't have a shower but its kinda difficult balancing towels and stuff trying to hide scars. ( and i'm not really active in pe so its not like i would be all sweaty

)
Or is that basically pointing it out saying i self harm..or can you get an infected leg another way?
i know what i mean lol but it isn't coming out right.
xxxx

half/hearted · Post by **half/hearted** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:59 pm

little pixie dust - First, you're not alone; many (maybe most) of us sometimes run into situations where it's difficult to hide our SI. Here are my thoughts on your current situation: Certainly go ahead and say something to your PE instructor. You may not even really have to give a reason--I'm extremely self-conscious just about changing in the presence of others, and I have sometimes had to say "I'm just really nervous and shy and I'd like to change in the toilets instead." Nothing wrong with that.

Personally, I think that should be enough; but, if you think your PE teacher might dismiss that, you can use any one of many other excuses: stretch marks, scars from an accident, hives, etc. Or, if you want something really effective, mention something like "unsightly body hair" or warts. Most people, upon hearing an excuse like that, will just go ":o Oh, all right then, that's understandable." And in most cases they won't ask to look

.

IMHO, I wouldn't use the excuse of an infected injury--simply because many teachers would be concerned and would want to take a look at it.

Hope some of this helps!

Be well,
~ Jae

P.S. I didn't mean any offense to people who actually have unsightly body hair or warts. I have both and they're just natural occurences, nothing to be ashamed of, but I do think they make effective excuses.

little pixie dust · Post by **little pixie dust** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 8:22 pm

Thanks for your help, the ideas are really good.

Yeh i think maybe saying i have an infection is going to lead to lots of questions..i will try the other ideas,don't have PE until Monday..will let you know how it goes lol.

cheers xxx

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