Why do you want to stop hurting yourself?

sisterbig · Post by **sisterbig** » Sun Feb 12, 2006 10:36 pm

My therapist really wants me to stop and I tell him I don't see any reason for stopping. I don't see my life as being unmanageable with hurting myself. He suggested that I ask others for reasons they want to stop and maybe I can find some reasons of my own. Will anyone be willing to share their reasons with me? I'm really having a rough time on this one. Thanks.

Stellaria · Post by **Stellaria** » Mon Feb 13, 2006 2:33 am

Maybe you can find some inspiration in these threads:

Stopping SI has been good for me because....

today i am glad i stopped because...

Some of my own reasons are
- I don't want to scare people close to me
- Since my self harm has tended to get worse and worse, I don't want to risk permanent injury
- I want to rediscover who I really am, without the drama of self harm getting in the way
- I need to learn how to treat myself well, so that I can have a better life. It's hard enough to deal with crap life throws at us without adding to the burden by beating myself up, mentally or physically
- I don't want to always have doctors and therapists in my life
- I don't want self harm to be a habit that controls me

I can understand if it's hard for you to think of reasons, if you are only doing it because your therapist told you to. I still think it's good and brave of you to at least look at it. Of course you have to come up with reasons that mean something to you, it's an individual thing. And it might not happen overnight. Or it might.

Hope things will work out for you.

Nina

sisterbig · Post by **sisterbig** » Mon Feb 13, 2006 12:43 pm

Nina: Thank you. Those are good reasons and they make sense. It it's okay with you, I'll print them out and keep them handy. Renee

Stellaria · Post by **Stellaria** » Mon Feb 13, 2006 2:29 pm

Hey, glad if I could be of some use.

Take care

Nina

Emma Wallace · Post by **Emma Wallace** » Mon Feb 13, 2006 3:40 pm

There have been times I have stopped for others. It's possible, but it's hard to do and at least for me it wasn't permanent.

Mainly I want to stop because I see self-injury as part of a larger situation that I'm not happy with and that I'm trying to escape. Self-injury didn't cause it, it's the other way around really, but by stopping this I'm starting to get away from all of it.

I'm tired of hiding.
I don't want it to control me.
It also scares people I know.

-E

angel2262 · Post by **angel2262** » Tue Feb 14, 2006 2:52 am

I wanna stop because it has become an out of con trol situation... it used to be to get rid of emotional pain now it is to get attention and pity. I'm using it as a clutch and need to stop.

although it helps remove pain.

HSUgirl · Post by **HSUgirl** » Mon Feb 20, 2006 5:30 am

Well I really don't know why if I want to stop SIing or not. I mean it was my decision to start going to counseling to stop but sometimes I ask myself the question why do I want to stop or do I want to stop? I guess I want to stop because I am affraid that I might accidently hurt myself really bad and accidently die.
Plus I am ashamed of this way I cope with things. I guess I am ashamed of the scars.
I guess that is a few reasons.

katja · Post by **katja** » Fri Mar 24, 2006 3:58 pm

-it makes me look all pale and wierd and spotty
-it gives me colds and stuff all the time, makes me ill
-it freaks out my mom and my boyfriend
-it hurts
-i end up with stupid looking scars
-I dont want to have the label "self harmer" because I think its really really lame to be one, because of the sterotype that surrounds it.
-I feel proud to tell people I used to do it, if they ask, and I over come it.

Eccie · Post by **Eccie** » Sat Mar 25, 2006 2:31 am

- I believe I can use more effective and safe methods of dealing with my emotions, if I just try.
- I don't want to scare and hurt my loved ones anymore.
- It's too tiring and emotionally exhausting to always be hiding scars and worrying what other people think.

I've found convincing myself that I truely want to stop difficult because at the time it seems so comforting and right, but I think deep down I always know that it's bad for me and destructive even if I can't really describe to myself why. I wonder if anyone feels this way too?

Thanks,
Ec

Post by **Spidey** » Sat Mar 25, 2006 4:21 am

Because it's a pain in the ass.

Seriously.

I have to hide scars, fresh cuts, and bruises.
Buying / hiding wound care products is a pain.
Fear of discovery makes me anxious.
Wondering if someone will find my tools / dressings / etc, and if they do, what will they say?
The way it makes me feel afterwards.

And because man it just sucks.

Unleash the Bats · Post by **Unleash the Bats** » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:49 pm

^^^completely agree

i want to stop because i dont want to run the risk of my little brother or sister noticing

i want to stop because i want to go to uni as a stronger person

i want to stop because im sick of being stuck in the emo-self harmer stereotype, even though i never si-ed to be "scene"

i want to stop because its time to gt over my mother and what she did

its time to let go.

sisterbig · Post by **sisterbig** » Sun Mar 26, 2006 9:13 pm

I've been told I'm a person of value and if that's true then I am hurting myself by hurting myself. I'm having a little bit hard time believing I have value because then I'm not bad and not to blame for what happened to me. So maybe I will be able to stop hurting myself.

sisterbig · Post by **sisterbig** » Sun Mar 26, 2006 9:13 pm

I've been told I'm a person of value and if that's true then I am hurting myself by hurting myself. I'm having a little bit hard time believing I have value because then I'm not bad and not to blame for what happened to me. So maybe I will be able to stop hurting myself.

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