how do u view yourself and why?

collide · Post by **collide** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 4:54 pm

ok i just wanted to write this out...because i know i have some false beliefs about myself but i can't see them all of them...

i view myself as an INTELLIGENT person, yet i also see myself as a complete FAILURE....(if i am not working, or in school-mainly)

i view myself as a KIND and COMPASSIONATE person, yet i also see myself as a HORRIBLE person (i have the heart to help, teach, care for kids, but i regress to the past because my parents abused me and it was ingrained in my head that they REALLY hated me because i am so HORRIBLE)

i view myself as ARTISTIC, yet i also don't think i'm that great (i paint, write poetry, write music....but haven't made myself keeo at it, so i haven't done anything to feel proud of myself really)

i view myself as GOOD LOOKING, yet i also see myself as FAT and UGLY....(i am my normal weight and i look young for my age, and i also have been told i am beautiful....but then i see myself as fat and ugly because i am not skinny enuff...i still have flab)

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disastercake · Post by **disastercake** » Thu Dec 01, 2005 1:14 am

I feel very much the same.

jup0se1 · Post by **jup0se1** » Sun Dec 11, 2005 7:45 pm

stupid...

HSUgirl · Post by **HSUgirl** » Mon Feb 20, 2006 10:35 pm

Well everyone views me as a very funny, honest, kind, etc person. I see myself as a complete failure, worthless, and UGLY.

Copasetic · Post by **Copasetic** » Mon Feb 20, 2006 10:48 pm

I'm the same as you in some areas... I know I'm intelligent, but I'm also a total failure (in everything, but especially school)... and I view myself as being kind-hearted, loyal, compassionate, etc... but also as an overall terrible person.

I don't know how I have such conflicting sides, but I do.

HSUgirl · Post by **HSUgirl** » Tue Feb 21, 2006 2:38 am

I just don't know why I feel this away about myself. I've always felt this away about myself. And I don't seem to get any better. I wish I felt better about myself but I try and I always end up feeling like a failure.

Callisto · Post by **Callisto** » Tue Feb 21, 2006 3:06 am

cheap, dirty, stupid, worthless, pathetic.

i dont know why...i've always felt this way.

xx_please_save_me_xx · Post by **xx_please_save_me_xx** » Sun Mar 12, 2006 12:54 am

worthless, useless, pathetic, stupid, a failure, lonely, cheap, unwanted, ugly, fat, miserable, like everything that goes wrong is my fault

I just have very low self esteem and it makes me feel worse than I should

LexieK88 · Post by **LexieK88** » Sun Mar 12, 2006 1:57 am

A complete hypocrite, a failure and a huge disappointment. The opposite of what I should be and what I always said I would be.

On the other hand, I am working very hard to change all that. That makes me feel much better. I guess I do have to give myself some credit there. But over all, right now I am not very happy with myself and am extremely disappointed in my recent choices.

black_23 · Post by **black_23** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:38 pm

Invisible, worthless, stupid, paranoid, selfish (without meaning to be), but i care so much.

Unleash the Bats · Post by **Unleash the Bats** » Wed Mar 15, 2006 12:54 pm

i see myself as caring, intelligent, funny and ok looking - on a good day

i see myself as a selfish failure with no hopes and prospects on a bad day,

im tired of bad days tho

scarlit_sky · Post by **scarlit_sky** » Wed Mar 15, 2006 11:50 pm

Everyone tells me that I am smart and good looking and caring. I don't know if I believe them though. On a good day, I believe them. On a bad day, I don't.

On a good day, I view myself as creative, pretty, intelligent, and a good listener. On a bad day, I view myself as ugly, stupid, slow, and weak. I know that these are unfair to myself and probably false beliefs but... to me they feel real at the time.

~Emily

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Tue Mar 21, 2006 4:08 pm

at the start of this thread i thought maybe it'd become a place where people could learn to challenge false beliefs they have about themselves (whether or not those beliefs seem completely true)

quite a few of the replies are very negative.

i'm wondering if this could be changed & moved back into being a coping thread rather than a 'list negative things about self' thread... =)

what are you doing about those negative views... what are some positive things? etc....

red umbrellas · Post by **red umbrellas** » Thu Mar 23, 2006 12:50 pm

I was just about to post about how negative all this was....and then saw that plantt had beaten me to it

i think the way that unleash expressed it was good: on a good day I feel this. On a bad day, I feel something else. But if I know the reality of a good day, I can challenge those beliefs.

Low self esteem is a curse. But keep lists of nice things people say about you, and remember they can't all be lying.

katja · Post by **katja** » Fri Mar 24, 2006 12:59 pm

I think I kind of like myself.
I diddnt used to think that, but now I do looking at other peoples responses.
I think I'm fun and pretty I know people like being around me most of the time. I think Im incredibly unstable, but thats the only thing I would really criticize, and I know thats the thing that people love about me that I'm unstable, because their stupid and I make their life more exciting and unpredictable even though it can be incredibly tiresome sometimes. I wish I could find somebody who was exciting all by themselves and diddnt need to be with someone crazy to feel real.
I get low self esteemy about my art work, its so personal and its not like other subjects, if I dont get into university it will be a personal criticizm on me.

Greta_Chan · Post by **Greta_Chan** » Tue Mar 28, 2006 5:41 am

I see myself as many things, which I'm not going to say since they might be triggering to myself and others, but I had this one therapist say to me once in response to me saying I feel like everything is my fault:

"So if everything is your fault, than you are responsible for everything, in which case you are super woman? Right? I mean think about it, you can't be everywhere at once nor can you cause everything wrong in the world; it's impossible. Stop trying to be God and start being yourself: A wonderful, lovely girl that deserves to have the responsibility of taking care of just herself."

What he said made me realize that I put to much responsibility into my own hands and that there is no way I could cause absolutely everything. Also, I know that I can't control the world, so why try? Just go with the flow and be responsible for yourself. I really needed to hear that, so I hope it helped. Also, I am one to be prone to parentification (the act of taking on the responsibilities of others due to your parents not taking there own responsibilities in you early childhood), so I try to tell myself that I'm not every single person's mother. If I was, I'm sure I would have one huge migraine. ::Snickers::

Anyway, that's my two cents.

Unleash the Bats · Post by **Unleash the Bats** » Wed Mar 29, 2006 2:55 pm

glitterflower wrote:I was just about to post about how negative all this was....and then saw that plantt had beaten me to it

i think the way that unleash expressed it was good: on a good day I feel this. On a bad day, I feel something else. But if I know the reality of a good day, I can challenge those beliefs.

thanks. i didnt mean it to come out as a bad message or what ever, but thats just the way i persieve myself. the way i am trying to overcome those bad days by trying to distract myself, to paint my nails, to wash my hair, make a sandwich, make a cup of tea, do things that make me feel nice.

sorry to bring the tone of the thread down

red umbrellas · Post by **red umbrellas** » Wed Mar 29, 2006 3:41 pm

Unleash the Bats wrote:
glitterflower wrote:I was just about to post about how negative all this was....and then saw that plantt had beaten me to it

i think the way that unleash expressed it was good: on a good day I feel this. On a bad day, I feel something else. But if I know the reality of a good day, I can challenge those beliefs.
thanks. i didnt mean it to come out as a bad message or what ever, but thats just the way i persieve myself. the way i am trying to overcome those bad days by trying to distract myself, to paint my nails, to wash my hair, make a sandwich, make a cup of tea, do things that make me feel nice.

sorry to bring the tone of the thread down

No, what I meant was that you didn't at all

You were realistic about things - your recognised that, ok, if i'm having a bad day my perceptions of myself will change, but on a good day you *can* still think nice things about yourself.
so not a criticism at all!

and it's good to see you've got some coping mechanisms lined up to make you feel better about yourself on a bad day

red umbrellas · Post by **red umbrellas** » Wed Mar 29, 2006 3:46 pm

And to answer the question myself:

On a bad day, I get unmotivated. I feel stupid and unworthy. But I'm not stupid...I'm quite smart really, or I wouldn't be where I am today.

I think I'm reasonably pretty. Ok, I definitely have some ugly days, but so does everyone (don't they?!?!).

I've often felt unlovable. But I can't be. My friends at home have kept in touch with me over thousands of miles. My parents love me to death and I know it. I've made some wonderful friends here. I have an amazing boyfriend. So I must be a good person

I'm kind. I care a lot about my friends. And they come to me when they need help or advice.

I have a good sense of humour. It does die occasionally when I'm feeling bad....but everyone has bad days.

I'm pretty easy to get on with. I very rarely fight with people.

Hmmm....not perfect by any means. But I wouldn't change who I am...not these days anyway.

~starblaze~ · Post by **~starblaze~** » Wed Mar 29, 2006 3:54 pm

I like several other people on here, see myself differently on a bad day and a good day.

I want to try and only write out though how i see myself on a good day so that maybe if im having a bad day i can come to this and remind myself 'this is how i see myself when im not feeling down/upset or whatever'

I see myself as kind and caring towards my family and my friends and those i love because i try to be nice to everyone and i do care about what happens to those around me and how they are feeling.

I see myself as a very loyal and trustworthy friend who will be there if they say they will and i know that people do feel as if they can talk to me if they need to.

I see myself as loveable. I know my family love me and i know K does too.

I see myself as shy but once someone gets to know me i can be quite talkative and lively and pretty hyper at times too!

I see myself as strong, ive been through quite a lot in my life, not as much as some, but more than i guess others must have done and ive got through it all and i know ill never give up.

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