How do you feel about your scars?

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Post by Peege » Tue Feb 21, 2006 5:33 am

i hate my scars. i do get used to them i guess, but then i always add more and i have to get used to them all over again.

i hate them for the cycle they represent.

i hate them for reminding me of what i do and i hate them for showing others what i do. i hate them for constantly reminding me of how much i hate myself.

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Post by OverTheWorst » Tue Feb 21, 2006 10:12 am

Hi all :-)
I am ashamed of my scars but then again i see it as something ive overcome and im a strong person for doing that.

I wore short skirts in the summer even though i couldnt cover up my scars but that only slightly bothered me that people were looking-they dont know what ive been through so bully for them for having such a perfect life

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Post by beautiful_facade » Tue Feb 21, 2006 11:29 am

Today i *feel* like a scar. i think there is more scar tissue than regular skin on my body. Usually i am okay with them, but have just been to plastics clinic and that has made me feel bad about them :(

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Post by newdeepdan » Fri Feb 24, 2006 5:54 am

I'm not ashamed of my scars. I let the world see them. Anyone that meets me always stares at them and its funny to see them change the way they speak as if what they say will trigger something... My scars are me and there's nothing to change that.
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Post by lostchild1962 » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:54 am

I stroke over mine as well..both my arms are full of scars..very few people around me know..They remind me of my past and present...and I hope not my future.They are ugly..

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Post by kittyinthemiddle » Tue Mar 14, 2006 4:22 am

looking at my scars reminds me of everything that led me to them so in that way i don't like them... But i've always had scars (i fell through a window when i was 1 and got 80 stitches in my face) so i guess i'm numbed to it all a bit coz've the teasing and bullying i've experienced with those ones. Who pays attention to your arms and legs when they can comment on how you have a forehead scar like Harry Potter?
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Post by Riley42 » Tue Mar 14, 2006 3:49 pm

I look at my scar alot, I get angry and think of how my life will never be the same. I often look at my other arm and I touch it a wish my other was smooth and un-scarred. I find myself always starring at other peoples arms now, and I wish I was them, for the first time I actually wish I was someone else.

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Post by ioa » Fri Mar 24, 2006 3:47 am

All of my scars are easily hidden. That doesn't stop me from stroking them a lot - I like the way they feel. Most of the time, I'm pretty indifferent to them.

Sometimes, I see them as "battle" scars in the battle against myself.

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Post by Eccie » Fri Mar 24, 2006 4:00 am

I like my scars. I think they're beautiful and I stroke them all the time, but I know my family and friends who know don't like them so I cover them up most of the time.

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Post by DisposibleTeen » Fri Mar 24, 2006 7:13 am

I hate to say it but I like them. It's like they should be there, it makes my arms look right.
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Post by arianwen1174 » Fri Mar 24, 2006 7:40 am

I'm embarrassed by my scars and won't go out of the house without long sleeves any more. And yet I continue to make more...hmmmmmmm....... I just bought a new lightweight white long-sleeve blouse to wear during the summer. Sometimes in the summer when I'm going to the store I just drape the tops over my arm like I'm bringing it along in case I get chilly. It covers the scars without covering too much of me and making me too hot. Anyway, yes, my scars bother me. You'd think that would keep me from making more.

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Post by slinky » Fri Mar 24, 2006 12:44 pm

Mine are on my legs, which are only seen bare by me and my boyfriend. I feel comfortable with them now as they are a reminder of my past. I wouldn't wish them away.

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Post by shadowavenger » Sat Mar 25, 2006 6:56 pm

I stroke mine because I like feeling the different textures on my skin. I like my scars when they turn white but not when they're purple/pink because they look too new and too much like cuts. I think of my scars as what I've been through. I almost always hide them but yday I was on a bus, I was really hot and thought "fuck it" and just took my hoodie off and sat on the bus reading in my short sleeves. I felt nervous but it also felt good because I was determined not to be ashamed (and I didn't get any funny looks). I came to the conclusion that if I'm on my own or with certain people then it's okay to go sleeveless, but at school and at home I wouldn't because I wouldn't want people seeing that. It's private, like having my feelings shown on my arm, and that makes me feel vulnerable.
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Post by Unleash the Bats » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:45 pm

i have very mixed feelings toawrds them. i find my self storking them sometimes, like a sort of comfort mechanism or something. i dont rele notice im doing it either.

i also hate them. i hate the fact they are there, continuously reminding me of everything.

they make me feel down, but then again, i suppose they kind of make me who i am and are a visual representation of what goes on in my head.
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Post by there_is_hope » Sun Apr 23, 2006 9:19 pm

I hate my scars! They did help me in the past get threw some really rough times. But I'm starting to slowly move on. I don't really like being reminded everyday of what happened and how and why they got there.
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Post by Neviah » Sun Apr 23, 2006 10:22 pm

i hate my scars they make me feel angry and ashamed and they make me feel like they are in controll and i'm not..

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Post by INTERWIZZ9000 » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:36 pm

MY SCARS??
WELL I GUESS MY SCARS ARE LIKE SYMBOLS
THEY ARE REMINDERS OF ALL THE EMOTION I CAN DISPLAY EVEN IF THAT IS NOT IN A GOOD WAY

MY SCARS ARE LIKE TATOOS TO ME
THEY REMIND ME OF TIMES GOOD AND BAD AND I AM NOT ASHAMED OF THEM AT ALL
IF SOME ONE ASKED WHERE I GOT THEM FROM I TELL THEM STRAIGHT
"I DID THEM MYSELF"
MOST OF THE TIME THEY JUST END THE CONVERSATION
BUT I DO NOT CARE
THEY ARE NARROWMINDED

SOME TIMES PEPLE SEE MY SCARS AND JUST CALL ME CRAZY
OR THEY GET FASCINATED AND ASK ME ABOUT THEM ALL THE TIME
BUT IN TRUTH
I DO NOT CARE EITHER WAY REALLY
THEY ARE ON ME NOW AND THEY ARE THERE BECAUSE OF ME
I PUT THEM THERE AND THUS I HAVE TO ACCEPT THE CONCEQUENCES OF DOING SO

SO FUCK EVERYONE ELSE
WHO GIVES A SHIT ABOUT WHAT I LOOK LIKE?
THEY CAN THINK WHAT THEY WANT
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Post by forevercryingtears03 » Wed May 10, 2006 8:23 pm

Most of the time, I'm ashamed of them. But the other times, I feel a sort of comfort. To remind me what I have gone through. i don't know ::shrugs:: Lol.
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Post by Callisto » Wed May 10, 2006 9:20 pm

secret_smile wrote:
Skyeler wrote:The only time I care about people seeing them are when they're new.
that statement above pretty much sums up my feelings

i only care about them when they are new because then ppl can ask questions and lecture and stuff

old ones ppl dont tend to ask about
I'm quoting myself here because things have changed recently....

now I am ashamed of them...in fact I'm so ashamed that recently I can't leave my room without wearing long sleeves to cover my arms because I can't bear to have my flatmates see and give me 20questions....

so yeah, funny how stuff changes aint it.

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Post by ~bluehaze~ » Thu May 11, 2006 11:03 am

I hate my scars now. I used to find them comforting almost but now I would wish them away.

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