i just told my mum 2 secs ago.

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i just told my mum 2 secs ago.

Post by Cellardoor » Fri Oct 14, 2005 12:29 am

Ive been wanting to tell my mum about my si for a bit, but its been tricky to find a good time. :-?
But today we were watching tv and she said "your happy now arent you? i mean your life is better now right?"
So i was like, "ummmmmmmmmmmmm" man was she wrong... :sconf:
Then i kinda nodded so she said "you sure? you kinda hesitated...?"
So i nodded again...
Then she went "good, i thought so, im glad, cos it matters to me u know?"
i nodded again. i was having my own private nodding fest, it seemed.
Then my grandma came in and told us dinner was ready so that was the end of that conversation. :o

Then later i figured, really i was not gonna get a better opertunity than this to talk to her. So i did. I went into her room later and told her i was lying when i said i was happy and that in fact i was worse than ever, then i took off my pj top and said, "look". She looked, she saw all my scars.
So she cried and said we were gonna get me some help PRONTO. This was all very good. :)

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ANYWAY, tomorrow im going to the doctor. :help:
Its really rather scary.
This whole, getting help thing, its scary.
I wonder what the doctor will say.
Im not sure i want to know exactly whats wrong with me.
Oh blimey im really scared.

Can i have some support or advice or anything? If thats ok... I just think i kinda need a push in the right direction, in case i flake out.
el xxx :bblink:
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Post by Poya Maitri » Fri Oct 14, 2005 2:50 am

Hi Cellardoor!

Good for you! That was really brave! :newangel:

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Post by fortune » Fri Oct 14, 2005 6:41 am

I think you're amazing to be able to do that, i haven't told anyone about my SI as yet. I know how scared i'd be doing that and knowing that someone else was brave enough to do it has really given me hope. You should be so proud of how far you've come. Know that you have all my support in getting help and that you will be in my thoughts. :smilecolros:
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Post by Wargasm » Fri Oct 14, 2005 8:28 am

If I did that my parents would freak out and ground me. :roll:
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Post by Tori1989 » Fri Oct 14, 2005 10:18 am

Wow, you are so brave! Well done, and don't worry about seeing your Doctor. I know its a little scary seeking help for the first time, I was exactly the same, but since I saw my Doctor and got a good referral, I have been doing much better.
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Post by amyfairy » Fri Oct 14, 2005 11:54 am

good luck for the dr. today - i can understand how scared you must feel but it will be ok - maybe write down what you want to say to the dr? before you go, sometimes that makes it easier.

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Post by morganna » Fri Oct 14, 2005 4:20 pm

well done for being so brave. it sounds like you handled it perfectly. i hope the doctors went well for you :cystar: :redstar:
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Post by Blake 1 » Sun Oct 16, 2005 2:20 am

you are so brave! that takes a lot of courage to tell someone about SI. i'm happy that you're getting help. i hope your doctor's appointment went well.
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Post by theboldeditalics » Sun Oct 16, 2005 5:04 am

Congrats. I hope things go well for you.
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Post by dbms » Sun Oct 16, 2005 2:18 pm

Good for you. You're tremendously brave. Good luck with the doctor. You handled this very well. Perhaps you can write down a thing or two as reminders of what you want to talk to the doctor about. While its scary to see doctor first time I found that its never as frightening as I made it out in my mind beforehand.

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Post by Green Beauty » Sun Oct 16, 2005 9:18 pm

Just wanted to add another round of applause for you. Thats was a brave thing for you to do :) . Take care of yourself.

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Post by sophiko » Mon Oct 17, 2005 7:38 am

wow, you are brave. and lucky for having a chance of getting professional help. i wish i could but i cant pay for it myself and if i tell my parents i will just make them hate me even more than they do now. and then everything will go to hell. please tell what the doc told you-i hope he wasn't being a moron! good luck! :star:
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Post by Cellardoor » Mon Oct 17, 2005 7:41 pm

Hey guys! thanks... :pinkstar: I told the doctor, i wrote down a few things like some of you said (thanks for the tip! :gooddeal: ) but all i really had to do was show her my arms... It was so scary.
Anyway, shes trying to find all the right people to help me and shes gonna call tomorrow with some more infomation. She was so nice to me. For once everything is going in the right direction :)
Thanks again, el xxx
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Post by Blake 1 » Mon Oct 17, 2005 9:14 pm

I am so glad things went well for you at the doctor! :D
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Post by dbms » Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:01 pm

Glad things went well for you. :D
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Post by disastercake » Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:23 am

It took so much courage for you to tell your mother. I don't think I'll ever be able to, and I'm afraid of how they'll react. So, a big pat on the back for you! That's wonderful that your mother cares and is being supportive. I hope everything goes/went well for you.
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Post by Jia » Thu Oct 20, 2005 1:15 pm

That's great! Both that you had the courage to tell your mother, and that it went so well with the doctor. :) I wish you all the luck in the world, and hope things keep going in the right direction. :) :gooddeal: :multi:
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Post by Anactoria » Thu Oct 20, 2005 8:49 pm

That was a brave thing to do, telling your mom. I haven't managed to tell mine yet.

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Post by userfreindly » Fri Nov 18, 2005 8:16 am

thats must have been realy creepy you must have felt sick, i know ehen i had to go to the dotor and counsleor and shit i was so nervouse and i was trying to like get rid of the skin left by the cuts and shit, i didnt actualy want to get better at the time so it didnt help or anything .. i got anti depresents but didnt take them, and the fact that my mom had found out just stressed me more and made me want to do it, so i continued to do it as much as i would have before, which was practicley all down my arm, my mom never saw them and my counseler said i didnt have to show her, so i didnt..

but good for you in reliving that this is a good thing you are doing for yourself, i want to find a way to stop but i dont think the counseling and shit would be what i want, plus i got a great bf... so i dunno

i think you need someone, but you need someone who needs you to, but who am i to say, try not to worry about the little things like i do.. but

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Post by -Kel- » Fri Nov 18, 2005 9:56 am

You were very brave to tell your mum, i admire you. and its fabalous that she seems to have taken it all in her stride. Remember that the recovery proces is yours and your in charge. good luck
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