After..stupid

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After..stupid

Post by kelly_girl » Sun Nov 06, 2005 7:17 pm

have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
No

what had happened just before?
My parents were yelling at me about washing off my face :roll: I started yelling back and they called me stupid and said I was acting like a 2 year old and that they hated me like this. I played stupid and had another "outburst" and threw everything around the bathroom and other really stupid things.

what were you thinking and feeling?
I was really angry and dissapointed in myself.

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
Eh, i've been doing really well with dealing with my mood disorder and I felt like I was failing because I was going crazy about somthing so stupid.

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
I could have just listended to my parents.

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
Not really, I guess i'm just moody and bad.

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I seriously messed up my bathroom..does that count?

in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
Well I kinda self-harmed blindly without thinking. I never really thought of coping.

name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
-Calm Down
-Think

how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
Its resolved, I feel like a huge drama queen.

are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
I can see it easy, it will happen again.

what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
-Reading
-Internet
-Sleeping
-Drawing On Skin
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Post by plantt » Mon Nov 07, 2005 5:33 pm

what are some ways that might help you remember other ways of coping...
from this post & the last it sounds like there's not so much the problem of not thinking of other things that could've been done as finding ways to remember those things for the next time...

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Post by kelly_girl » Tue Nov 08, 2005 6:57 pm

I guess I could think about it, its just that I do things without thinking.
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