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Post by kelly_girl » Sat Nov 05, 2005 8:43 pm

have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
Yes

what had happened just before?
I ate dinner

what were you thinking and feeling?
Sad and upset. I don't know why..school and my life.

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
No, it was a BIG trigger I didn't cut for two days.

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.


were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
Not really, just School and having no friends

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I ate dinner..annd tryed to go to sleep. Didn't work very well


in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
Maybe drawing on my skin or using the computer.

name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
Write it down in Notepad

how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?


are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
I always am in that Emotional Place.

what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
-Red Marker
-Ice
-Computer
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Post by swirlish » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:05 pm

You said you were sad and upset. Can you think of any more feelings? Can you specify why you were sad and upset? What could you have done about that instead of cutting?

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Post by kelly_girl » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:23 pm

mian wrote:You said you were sad and upset. Can you think of any more feelings?
Well, I was stressed out and I felt like I was a falliure
mian wrote:Can you specify why you were sad and upset?
No, I'm just hating everything right now. I have no social life and I have no fun..nobody really cares except for my parents and nobody at school likes me.
mian wrote:What could you have done about that instead of cutting?
-Draw on skin with red marker
-stay on computer
-Make a Happy Box
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Post by plantt » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:34 pm

I have no social life and I have no fun..nobody really cares except for my parents and nobody at school likes me.
--those sound like specifics to me :)
what are some ways you could work on getting a social life & having fun?

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Post by kelly_girl » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:54 pm

I don't know...if I went to a regular school that might help
We enjoy warmth because we have been cold.
We appreciate light because we have been in darkness.
By the same token, we can experience joy because we have known sadness.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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<img src="http://www.toxin.org/cgi-bin/count_hugs ... kelly_girl" height="40" width="240" title="HUGS">
<br clear="all">
*HUGS* TOTAL!
<a href="http://www.toxin.org/cgi-bin/hugs.cgi?& ... girl">give kelly_girl more *HUGS*</a>
<br><small><a href="http://www.toxin.org/cgi-bin/gethugs.cgi">Get hugs of your own</a></small><br clear="all">

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