ok, ive decided to tell my mum... advice?

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ok, ive decided to tell my mum... advice?

Post by Cellardoor » Mon Oct 03, 2005 9:55 pm

So ya, im going to tell my mum that i need some help. im not gonna tell her any of the reasons for why i am how i am, im just gonna tell her that i:
:pinkstar: self harm
:pinkstar: have barely slept for 4 months
:pinkstar: get regular panic attacks
:pinkstar: am so very very worried that i actually am insane
:pinkstar: some of the scary insane things i do and,
:pinkstar: have 'severe depression' (according to every internet test i can find)
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So, im just wondering whats the best way to tell her? i dont want to like, overload her or freak her out too bad or upset her too much u know? but i need her help to getme help cos i cant do it my self cos (ive tried) cos im only 16... anyway id really like some help and support on this one, if thats ok, cos its a very scary thing to do... thanks el xxx
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Post by balletomane » Mon Oct 03, 2005 10:47 pm

Hi. First of all, I really admire you for making this decision. Telling someone is a difficult thing to do. My suggestion would be to have information ready for your mother. perhaps some names of t's and pdocs in your area, information about mental health care, etc.

good luck. I hope this helps you get the support you need. :star:
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Post by hard_to_say » Tue Oct 04, 2005 5:21 am

Ok first of all I am a MOM of an SIer. I am sure telling her will be very hard but I applaud you for wanting to. Give her a chance. Maybe have some informational websites available for her to go read so you don't need to go into every little detail about what SIing is. Let her react and let her try to cope in her own way. If you don't want her to ask too many questions let her know that. Just be honest.
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Post by strmdncr » Wed Oct 05, 2005 3:00 am

The way I told someone I'm very close to is actually by using this site. I told them there was a website I wanted to share with them because it's been helpful to me, and went from there. Offering options to her is a good idea as well b/c it may help her to feel less overwhelmed with it all knowing that she doesn't have to start off trying to figure out how best to help b/c you've already provided her with that. You are being very brave, and I admire you for realizing this is something you wish to do in order to take care of yourself.
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