i need help *SA

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i need help *SA

Post by kate_ » Thu Sep 15, 2005 7:26 pm

my current problem...i've just told my family/cops about my childhood abuse from my mom's ex. he's not in my life anymore. can you guys share some feelings about pressing charges? i want to but it feels a lot easier to just avoid the whole thing, i need someone to push me to do the right thing..
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Post by strmdncr » Fri Sep 16, 2005 1:06 am

Kate

I think you already answered your own question for yourself
i want to....do the right thing
This is what you recognize as being right for yourself, and that is what is most important at this time, taking care of yourself. pm me if you need to.
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Post by GirlInterrupted » Fri Sep 16, 2005 3:20 am

You should do what feels right for you...not what anyone else tells you that you should...

There are pros and cons to weigh up for each course of action...
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Re: i need help *SA

Post by say » Fri Sep 16, 2005 5:22 pm

kate_ wrote:i want to...
You answered your own question, kiddo. If you want to, if you think it will help you move on and feel better, you should.

Maybe you could call RAINN or another hotline to find out what all will be involved? I feel better when I know what's going to happen... It would be a good way to prepare yourself, and it might help you make a firm decision on whether you want to press charges or not.
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Post by Space_Man » Fri Sep 16, 2005 7:20 pm

Realize that you aren’t getting someone else in trouble; you are merely responding to/reporting what your abuser decided to do to you, all on their own.
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Post by magebaby » Sat Sep 17, 2005 2:07 pm

ditto what Say said. make sure you get support while you're going through this though.

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