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steady hands · Post by **steady hands** » Fri Sep 02, 2005 3:11 am

i've been SIing for almost a year now, and I made it onto the softball team at my school. two days ago, I ended up cutting, and I think my coach might suspect something. today, he kept asking if I was okay, and if I needed to talk about anything. i'm afraid that he did notice, and that he told someone. nobody knows about my SI, and i'm afraid that tomorrow i'll get called into the counselor, who will tell my parents. just the thought of it makes me want to cut again. what should I do?

raevy · Post by **raevy** » Fri Sep 02, 2005 3:47 am

personally, i'd wait and see what happens. he may end up dismissing whatever thoughts he has.

hope it turns out ok

jen

Post by **strmdncr** » Fri Sep 02, 2005 6:26 am

For myself I wait and see what happens from it all, but each person is different. If it does reach the point of being called into the counsellor you do have the right to tell them that it isn't something you wish to talk about at this time. Best of luck with it all.

Space_Man · Post by **Space_Man** » Fri Sep 02, 2005 5:16 pm

raevy wrote:personally, i'd wait and see what happens.

strmdncr wrote:For myself I wait and see what happens from it all...

Sorry to be blunt, but: It basically sounds like it is out-of-your-hands at this point anyway…so, why stress about it…?

steady hands · Post by **steady hands** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 4:52 am

thanks for replying guys. he told me that he thinks something might be going on, and is giving me a chance to stop it by our tournament next weekend, otherwise I can't play the rest of the season. so i'm gonna try my best not to SI for a week, and see what happens. :-\

Post by **strmdncr** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 7:38 am

That is so not fair to you. It doesn't acknowledge anything and just places more pressure on you that you do not need. Sometimes people make me so angry...this idea of ultimatums, figuring that's going to make a difference.

Sorry for the rant there, I sincerely hope that everything works out well for you. It sounds like you really enjoy softball and I'd hate to see something you enjoy be taken away by someone who doesn't understand. Best wishes with it all and feel free to pm me if you every want.

Space_Man · Post by **Space_Man** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 5:32 pm

strmdncr wrote:That is so not fair to you. It doesn't acknowledge anything and just places more pressure on you that you do not need...

Agreed. If that was his way of “helping” you, then he gets a big:

for his efforts...

Hang-in there, sidvicious1903.

Post by **Poppies** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 6:35 pm

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That's rotten!

I don't know if I'm just being unrealistic here.... but is it worth telling him that this is NOT the sort of 'support' you need?

The problem as far as I can see it, is that if you manage not to si for the next week..... surely you're going to be under pressure not to si for the rest of the season.... so this threat will still hang over you....

do you see what I mean? If he suspects NEXT week or the week after, that you've si'd, he's going to threaten you with this again....

Is it worth writing a letter - you could hand it to him personally, and ask him to read it, explaining that this is not appropriate help.... that this pressure won't help you to stop si'ing in the long-term - in fact it could actually make it worse .... that you really enjoy your softball - maybe say that playing softball makes you feel better about yourself - that it's a release for you(?).... ask him for his support in this....

This is soooo easy for me to suggest, I know.... I just wondered if it might help....

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