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by aroobixcube » Tue Dec 07, 2004 3:28 pm
i tottally understand what your saying, as with my BF were always together and so he gets it all, i used to physically abuse him and verbally coz i had no control.
i hardly attack him now as i am gaining trust in him, but sometimes i still go off on one.
i see what you mean, you just want an instant relief and when you attempt to SI, you dont like that he tries to stop you, but if he didnt bother to stop you wd u feel u wanted him to stop you, one thing iv expereinced is that, when im feeling like SI, and my BF forces me to stop i scream and yell, but really, in my other mind i know hat i want him to stop me, but being forced to stop may also help you vent, maybe asking your BF to pi you down and yuou try to struggle, its an odd idea, but you'll be able to vent, and eventually, you'll tire out and relax again.
when you feel like your gunna explde, i was taught, V.recently to find a place, in your head that makes you happy, whether its real r made up, and take yourself there in your hea by clossing your eyes and breathing deeply, this should calm you down, i havent tried this idea yet, or theres always the ice cube or elastic band idea where you flik the elastic band against your wrist when you feel like SI'ing or going off on one -so to speak.
PM if needed,
Take care.
xxxx
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