After.......
Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 10:11 am
what had happened just before?
I had been texting my friend, K, she is leaving next tuesday, and it didn't go well. We weren't exacly arguing but it still didn't go well
what were you thinking and feeling?
I was feeling scared. I don't want to lose her because she means so much to me, yet I'm managing to push her away and annoy her in the last few days before she leaves. I'm not sure we're going to be able to see eachother before she goes and that upsets me because she said she might not be coming back. I want to hold on to her forever.
why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
It was just that I really needed to talk about this, and the only person I can talk to when I get in the sort of state I got myself into is her....so what could I do?
how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events thatled up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decisiona nd not arrived at the final straw.
I could have a. not text her (because I knew what would happen) and b. not sat and thought about it for an hour afterwards. Next time I will go out for a walk or listen to some music instead
were there outside factors like drugs, alcohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
Lack of sleep probably came into it. I need to make sure I get a decent amount of sleep at night because I'm definitely not at the moment.
what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I didn't try any. Next time I will
in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
I could have gone for a walk, listened to music, or at least held a couple of ice cubes first
name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
1. This sounds silly, but I've stuck a sticker with alternatives listed on it onto my box of blades
2. I will read the list and think through each option and decide whether it would work and how. That in itself may be enough of a distraction.
how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
Most definitely not resolved. I need counselling for this
are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
Yes I am. I will recognise it from how I feel, and I will try and do something about it
what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
1. Go for a walk/drive/ride my horse
2. Listen to some happy music
3. Watch a good film (comedy)
^^^those things often work for me
I had been texting my friend, K, she is leaving next tuesday, and it didn't go well. We weren't exacly arguing but it still didn't go well
what were you thinking and feeling?
I was feeling scared. I don't want to lose her because she means so much to me, yet I'm managing to push her away and annoy her in the last few days before she leaves. I'm not sure we're going to be able to see eachother before she goes and that upsets me because she said she might not be coming back. I want to hold on to her forever.
why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
It was just that I really needed to talk about this, and the only person I can talk to when I get in the sort of state I got myself into is her....so what could I do?
how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events thatled up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decisiona nd not arrived at the final straw.
I could have a. not text her (because I knew what would happen) and b. not sat and thought about it for an hour afterwards. Next time I will go out for a walk or listen to some music instead
were there outside factors like drugs, alcohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
Lack of sleep probably came into it. I need to make sure I get a decent amount of sleep at night because I'm definitely not at the moment.
what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I didn't try any. Next time I will
in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
I could have gone for a walk, listened to music, or at least held a couple of ice cubes first
name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
1. This sounds silly, but I've stuck a sticker with alternatives listed on it onto my box of blades
2. I will read the list and think through each option and decide whether it would work and how. That in itself may be enough of a distraction.
how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
Most definitely not resolved. I need counselling for this
are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
Yes I am. I will recognise it from how I feel, and I will try and do something about it
what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
1. Go for a walk/drive/ride my horse
2. Listen to some happy music
3. Watch a good film (comedy)
^^^those things often work for me