Answering the Questions
Posted: Mon Aug 09, 2004 10:08 pm
how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
The situation will not change, but my attitude towards it will. When I am confronted with the same people again and put in the same situation I will feel better inside because I know I have been punished for sucking and my emotions have been expressed.
what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
It won't bring anything to it except a glow of satisfaction that the way I feel now has been taken care of. However, I will have a new cut to hide and if I ever do tell these people about what I struggle with, to be honest I'll have to admit that I SIed over them.
how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
In the long run? I don't know. I don't know. That's hard. I'm not thinking of the long run. I don't care about another scar. I care about making this feeling about myself and making this utter loathing I have for myself go away for a little while.
if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
When it comes back, I'll SI again. It will bring me relief for a few hours and the next time I see these people.
what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
I could talk, but I'm not doing that. I don't know what else I could do. I can't think of another way to deal with this.
how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
Tomorrow I will feel better that I have delt with my emotions, but I might feel ashamed that I had to SI. I don't know what else I can do. If I talk to someone, tomorrow I will regret that I did that and that I trusted another person.
what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
I really want to self-injure right now. Honest. To honor that maybe I just won't talk to anyone ever again because they always make me upset.
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
I feel the need because at the moment I'm hating myself. I'm hating myself because I can't fit in with some people and they don't like me and I just don't know what to do because they always make me feel so bad without trying to. And they're not bad people--I just don't fit in.
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
Before, I SIed. The one time I talked I had to SI afterwards because I felt so bad about talking. Talking to someone IRL makes me feel worse than SIing does.
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
I feel a little better. I would rather be hurt.
How do I feel right now?
Sad. Nervous. Tense.
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Tense. Waiting.
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Better.
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
I can't advoid it. I don't know how to deal without SI.
Do I need to hurt myself
No. But I want to.
The situation will not change, but my attitude towards it will. When I am confronted with the same people again and put in the same situation I will feel better inside because I know I have been punished for sucking and my emotions have been expressed.
what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
It won't bring anything to it except a glow of satisfaction that the way I feel now has been taken care of. However, I will have a new cut to hide and if I ever do tell these people about what I struggle with, to be honest I'll have to admit that I SIed over them.
how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
In the long run? I don't know. I don't know. That's hard. I'm not thinking of the long run. I don't care about another scar. I care about making this feeling about myself and making this utter loathing I have for myself go away for a little while.
if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
When it comes back, I'll SI again. It will bring me relief for a few hours and the next time I see these people.
what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
I could talk, but I'm not doing that. I don't know what else I could do. I can't think of another way to deal with this.
how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
Tomorrow I will feel better that I have delt with my emotions, but I might feel ashamed that I had to SI. I don't know what else I can do. If I talk to someone, tomorrow I will regret that I did that and that I trusted another person.
what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
I really want to self-injure right now. Honest. To honor that maybe I just won't talk to anyone ever again because they always make me upset.
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
I feel the need because at the moment I'm hating myself. I'm hating myself because I can't fit in with some people and they don't like me and I just don't know what to do because they always make me feel so bad without trying to. And they're not bad people--I just don't fit in.
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
Before, I SIed. The one time I talked I had to SI afterwards because I felt so bad about talking. Talking to someone IRL makes me feel worse than SIing does.
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
I feel a little better. I would rather be hurt.
How do I feel right now?
Sad. Nervous. Tense.
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Tense. Waiting.
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Better.
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
I can't advoid it. I don't know how to deal without SI.
Do I need to hurt myself
No. But I want to.